Black Relationships : Why does some people do not want to committ?

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  1. 4KT

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    In otherwords what causes some people to want to "play house" as oppose to a full blown comittment. Committment meaning: marriage, moving in (while giving up your own apartment, monagamy).
     
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    this may sound like an excuse but not everyone get to the same point in life at the same time...even in relationships. one person might feel that they're ready for marriage while the other person feels that they're just beginning to get to know that person...and wants time to further that education.

    or, it could be that one person has not given the other person reason to want to move forward like that. may not feel that there's reason to commit to what he/she has.

    the season has not come for that type of change.

    whatever the reason might be, it's not time for that move...if either one is hesitant. as Destee would say, "be thankful to him/her for telling you that he/she's not ready."

    NOT EVERYONE WILL BE ON THE SAME PAGE AT THE SAME TIME.

    that's life.

    it may have nothing to do with commitment issues.
     
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    1. There are plenty of studies showing children of divorced or oow homes, dont tend to marry

    2. I like you as a dating partner but, you havent shown me anything that says spouse material

    3. Every time I think you're the one, you do something to blow it up

    4. I'm chicken. There I said it

    5. I think my spouse has to be able to ________ and you cant/wont do that

    6. There may be someone better out there

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    Committment .............
    So many toy with this because they are allowed the space to play with it
    and some just afraid to take that step and commit to the responsability of it
    but if love and relationships was taken more seriously you would see a rise in committing
     
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    another reason is these days a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons and some take marriage very serious so they want to make sure that the person they are with is who they want to marry. They don't want to keep getting married, getting a divorce and marrying again and divorcing again. So marriage is very serious to some people still, while others these days don't take as serious.
     
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    The stages of life are fourfold, as partitioned by the three life instructions:
    "Know Thyself
    Be Thyself
    Complete Thyself"

    The first stage is without knowledge of self. Those who commit without knowledge of self are likely doomed. The only worthwhile commitment is toward the completion of oneself (the last life instruction). Many will not commit if they do not see that commitment as completing themselves.

    HTP.
     
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    i knew somebody who got committed once……..
     
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    Bullsh . ..
     
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