Black Poetry : why do women leave...

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  1. baller

    baller Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Bruthaz…
    Let’s evaluate why a sistah cheats.

    Sistahz…
    Help me out.
    AND PLEASE OVERLOOK UNPLEASANT TERMINOLOGY.

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    “*****…
    you ain’t ****
    you ain’t neva gon’ be ****
    so don’t even think about it.

    The only reason you got me
    Is coz I felt pity for yo’ tired ***.”

    Bruthaz, if a woman told you that,
    Wouldn’t you leave
    Or, at the very least,
    Wouldn’t you go out and pull SOMEONE
    If only to prove that you can

    BUT THIS IS THE USUAL REASON:

    “everyday
    EVERYDAY
    She comes to you and say
    “don’t do me this way
    do you really need to play
    please, stay with me today.”

    “HELL NAW
    I GOTS GAME…TO PLAY
    GOTTA DO MY THANG…BABY.”

    Or

    “Who wuz dat ***** glued to yo’ face
    …leaving mascara
    I dare ya
    To tell me her name
    Putting lipstick trace
    Kiss elements
    All ova ya face.

    Wuz she at yo’ place
    Is that the ho whose panties
    I found in yo’ pocket
    The otha day”

    “WHAT DID YOU SAY?”

    “I said
    is that yo’ ho
    I saw tipping away from yo’ door
    When she saw me rolling through?

    What da ***** she want wid’chu

    After all yo’ bullshyt and childish ways
    A brutha steps to her who knows what to say:

    He asked her, politely, to be his QUEEN
    Promised dinner and dancing
    Among other things

    He offered everything
    She wanted from you
    But you were busy playing games
    …and her, as a fool.

    She came to you with one final plea

    “I love you, baby boy
    just be true to me”

    But you played her off…wasn’t hearing her ****
    “I’M TIRED OF YO’ NAGGING…NOW, GET ME A BEER, *****”

    She had packed her bags earlier that day
    Knew you wouldn’t feel her
    She felt you that way

    She went into the kitchen
    To fetch you a beer
    But walked out the door
    Coz she knew you didn’t care

    Knock…knock…

    “Hello”

    “you asked me to come
    well…here I am
    my luggage
    my heart
    and I’m through with that man

    I only ask one thing
    Don’t play games with me
    I’ve been played too many times
    If you don’t want me
    Leave me be

    “(smile) I’m not a baby boy
    you’re with a man now
    I know how to treat a woman
    Notice: I didn’t say cow

    I’ll make you the happiest woman
    That you’ve ever seen
    I’ll be your man, babygurl
    And you’ll be my
    QUEEN.
     
  2. msluciousb

    msluciousb Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    You got my eyes stinging and my ears ringing!

    As you stepped into my private world and witnessed my distress
    You told my life in stanza and I think you said it best...
    Maybe not each particular...but certainly you made the point..
    Baby boy this was "DA JOYNT!"
    You made my eyes sting and my ears ring...is someone talking about me...but that's what a "GOOD POEM" does it makes you
    open your eyes and see...Though she is not me today...how many times I felt that same way! And why do women leave and not stay......you said it all , What else could I say!
    BLESSINGS ON YA HOUSE!:toast:
     
  3. baller

    baller Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    msluciousb...THANKS for allowing me to step into your world...and for the response. glad you liked the joynt.:) maybe if we--MEN--understand why you--WOMEN--leave, then we can prepare a more compelling reason for you to stay.

    THANKS for the love.
     
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    msluciousb Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Ok! Here Goes!

    Why do women leave? For the same reasons that men leave.
    Feeling unappreciated, abused, misused and feeling a lack of
    respect. Loosing your identity is the number one reason that
    women leave...it's a flight or fight response...barring and excluding physical abuse or infidelity on the part of her mate,
    the woman who leaves is usually not strong enough to stay.
    If it requires more than that person can give...they scoot!
    If they are selfishly motivated in the first place, when they don't
    get their way...they give it the boot.
    When women feel lost and abandoned for whatever reason
    they seek that intimacy that is so vitally important to us.
    So, if you want her to stay you have to remember...
    "The same thing it takes to get them, is the same thing it takes
    to keep them"!
    That means listening when we speak, not neccessarily cause we want you to fix it, but because we want to know that you care.
    Don't take us for granted we are your women ,not your maids or your momma's. Give us encouragement to fulfill our dreams the
    woman who has goals and aspirations, rarely has time to obsess about her mans small lack of attention. But I do mean small.
    You got to squeeze her , please her...tell her that you need her!
    And thats my three cents worth! I would be interested to see what other folks think!
    Blessings!
     
  5. baller

    baller Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    i encourage you to be the beautiful QUEEN you're destined to be. will be there, when the seas are calm, as well as raging. ready to squeeze...to tease...to please 'til your heart's content.

    THANKS for sharing.
    there are too many women who don't know how to express how they feel...how, what their mate is doing, effects them. THANKS for the words.
     
  6. Joyce

    Joyce Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    A good woman leaves because her needs aren't being met.
    A bad woman leaves because she wants someone else to meet her needs besides you.

    Nonetheless, yours is an insightful poem and no doubt it will open the door of understanding the opposite sex better.
     
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    I hate to break in cause I am learning so much, but I wanted to say well done poet. A true poet should have empathy and sympathy and should not be afraid to show it.
    glad you brought it this way
     
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    baller Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Joyce...they say GOOD WOMEN are made BAD by BAD MEN. is that true? if so, and we all start off good, who made whom BAD.:) SORRY...anyway, we all need to understand one another so that happiness may spring eternal.

    THANKS FOR READING.

    shaz...THANKS for the love, poet. WE'RE ALL LEARNING as we go. i learn for you...you learn from me...we learn for joyce...and the rest of the family.:)

    THANKS.

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  9. ShadeeLadee

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    Being a youngblood of the ghetto persuasion and fabulous only on occasion... I am still searching for this answer. And when I come to a better understanding of why we (sistahs) want more out of a situation that we bring to the table, I'll holla back.

    I'm in basic agreement with sista Joyce, but I have to say my nature is not balanced until I want MORE from myself. My mama say then and only then can I come correct to the feast and everybody gets full.

    Ok... that's an inside thang, but I hope you feel what I'm saying.
    I can't fully blame the brothas for making a sista bad. It's like a cycle and who can know which came first? And who is gonna be the one to break it and finally be the strongest link?

    Making a young sista think, brother baller.

    Thank you

    Shade
     
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    Joyce Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    If a good woman is rescued from a bad man by a good man, she'll be an even better woman...this I know, because this is exactly what happened to me...I was rescued. I remain a good woman.

    Moreover, if a good woman becomes God's woman, she learns to love herself and then she is willing to fall in love again.
     
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