Black Relationships : Why do some sisters insist on dating

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by repunza, Mar 17, 2009.

  1. repunza

    repunza Member MEMBER

    Mar 16, 2009
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    some brothers who are either thugs or just getting out of jail? I know a few sisters just love sorry brothers. What is it about these brothers?
  2. free2b_me

    free2b_me Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Oct 28, 2008
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    bay area
    Not all sista's

    Not a :censored:thing!
  3. smalllady

    smalllady Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Aug 4, 2008
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    There is nothing good about these types of males and I wish and I knew why some sisters fall for these types of guys.
  4. Nasheed

    Nasheed Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Jan 15, 2008
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    Otr Truck Driver
    The Ville in The Lou
    Did You Ever Think

    These are Brothers lost in this madness and just need a "Strong Sistah" to show them the way? Im not saying that this fits all Bro's in this situation but dont count all out. We as " Black Men" have been targeted for hundreds of years.
  5. truetothecause

    truetothecause Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Feb 26, 2007
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    In the fantasy of Afreekan Unity
    They NEED "Love".....

    Mother Love!.

    Could be the Sistrens Maternal Instincts kicking in and they want to "love and treat them right"......

    Problem is for is a loooonnnnngggg way BACK to their Afreekan mind..and in the mean time....the hurt still happens
    The Sistren are disillusioned by this thing called "love".


  6. Da Street So'ja

    Da Street So'ja Banned MEMBER

    Jun 11, 2001
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    thrivin' spiritually/physically/emotionally/financ
    where failure is not an option

    they are "BROTHERS"
  7. uplift19

    uplift19 Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Mar 6, 2006
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    I guess it's the alure of the "bad boy"'s appealing as a fantasy or fling but not as a real, long-term relationship
  8. phynxofkemet

    phynxofkemet Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Jan 11, 2008
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    child care provider
    eartH (Heart) is my home

    I spent some years studying criminal advocacy, and I do know some brothers who were incarcerated. Studying criminology I believed that the unifying source of their behavior was rooted in ignorance of self, or self-hate.

    I also felt strongly that the prison population could be rehabilitated on a large scale but not through punishment.

    Now, the brothers I know personally have not been victims of the revolving door. They made their mistake, paid their time and moved on to brighter days. Not a large percentage are able to do this, because not a large percentage want to actually change themselves. Which does not make them good dating material.

    The challenge of dating a brother that has been incarcerated for more than 3 years is the coping mechanisms and inmate culture that he must adapt to and adopt. The younger he enters the system, the more the culture imprints on him because he doesn't have any other life experience to draw from.

    Why some women want to date Thugs, I can't say. I've never been attracted to men who carry weapons, sell drugs, or don't own a suit. That being said however, there are brothers amongst us who do their dirty in other ways, and look real "Slick Rick", or Mack the Knife". They're not any better than their thug counterparts, they just get better legal representation to stay out of jail!

    Having been in jail doesn't make you a criminal for the rest of your life; there are plenty of criminals who don't get caught remember!

    Now, having given my John Howard Society sounding advocacy speech, I have to admit that I've sworn to (future) dating men with a clean rap sheet. :angel1:
  9. oldiesman

    oldiesman Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Feb 9, 2006
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    why do some sisters...

    i'm surprised that no one has answered this yet,look black people there are two sister has such low self esteem that she only thinks that a[thug]would want her...and the other is so stupid[and no i didn't studder]that she thinks that the only[real]blackman has to be a[thug]or done time in the whiteman's jail..both are sad.
  10. HODEE

    HODEE going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

    United States
    Jul 2, 2003
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    (RF) Technician
    ( Alonewolf ) California.. by way of the LOU

    Your point about the Maternal Instinct has merit. I have wondered this question too repunza brought up.

    What is it really that draws the sisters to these kinds of guys? :couple:

    One they come out of prison buffed and hard. That is one reason maybe.

    Another could be the maternal instinct and need to tame a brother.

    Woman do not want a man they can command and will do all he can for her. There is no excitement in a cooperative.

    Even if she really loves her man. She looses something. Respect for her values, her self or him. :karate:

    It may be that tiger in her that no longer sees a kill. The docile brother is no Real meat to :cook:Conquer.

    Then maybe they are just are doing the wrong thing to be with someone they deep down know will not be faithful. May commit crime again, pulling her into it or worse danger. Gun battles.

    Then it may be that Bonnie and Clyde thing. :uzi::uzi::uzi:
    I would consider robbing a bank. If I had a sister that would drink all night with me, smoke cigars ( good ones with me ) and she was a good driver and would shot and have my back. We both go out blazing. ( Just joking about the blazing part :laugh: )


    :thinking:This is what I thought today. Some words highlighted meaning no Ill will.
    So don't go there, be informed about the power of life and the words that control. we do these things not knowing we are going in circles with few words. to live by. If You Don't see. You Don't know. Click on a word and go there to it's definition.

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    3: the act of putting something in working order again [syn: {repair}, {fixing}, {fixture}, {mend}, {mending}, {reparation}

    To fix is a reparation. Woman love to fix things. and

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    Men love to solve.

    Maybe we have the Reparations we seek as African Americans in all the wrong places. Only a woman can heal ( fix ) a :injured:man.

    Only a man can solve certain things a Woman can't in this world and society.

    So when a Woman dates a Brother that has been incarcerated
    She is giving him his reparations and trying to fix him since he is broken.
    Sister for ages have been the back for the Brothers.

    Now I need a woman to give me my reparations. I want to be fixed. So I am going to commit a crime tomorrow morning. Can someone have her pick me up at five. I don't want to go to prison to be treated right. But if that is the case.. I am ready!:laugh: