Black Relationships : WHY DO SOME BROTHERS PLACE SO MUCH BLAME FOR OUR BAD RELATIONSHIPS ON SISTERS???

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  1. Isaiah

    Isaiah Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Again, I say SOME brothers have this tendency to point fingers at sisters as if we are perfect... Listen, I am a man, and I know plenty of other men, and I know that NONE of us is perfect... So why, when we are asked to examine, no doubt, the myriad causes for our defective relationships, do we point fingers at anyone but ourselves???

    Granted, African women have their issues, and they've a tendency to blame us as well, but as a man, I feel it necessary to check myself to see where I went wrong, before blaming it on the other person - and that is in any relationship... What I have found more often than not, is that both parties were equally responsible for the ill-health and maintenance of their relationships...

    But I don't think a lot is accomplished by hammering women, and TELLING them how they should be... I don't think a lot is accomplished by women hammering men, and telling is how we should be... We should simply be striving daily to be the best person we can be, and make it our policy to render unto our sisters what we want for ourselves, and the same should apply to sisters... Barring that - not striving to be the best multi-dimensional human being one can be - one should have zero to complain about as regards other parties...



    Peace!
    Isaiah
     
  2. ibrahim

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    I'm sure this thread will get alot of replies form the sisters.
     
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    :)...If it does, it will defeat the purpose of the thread----self-examination.
     
  4. Sanaiah25

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    why not from men. they are free to disagree. everyone knows black men don't cause problems in relationships. i have never heard such a thing? but i'm willing to give it some thought :thinking:
     
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    true, maybe we should shut up...i hear we don't do that enough:rolling:
     
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    it's easy taking shots at dem sisters, but........

    i do think it is best to look inside.
    i try to do that as much as i can.
     
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    Sanaiah25 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    you mean some of you can love us despite our faults? we appreciate it.:blush:
     
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    Well, the question is asked of the men, so I think Sistas should just be quiet sometimes.
     
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    Yea, give it a thought
     
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    black women have no idea how attractive and compelling they are to a black man. to any man, really.
    there is a lot of love there from both sides.
    the challenge is to remove the blocks and let it flow free.
    black love once rocked the nation it can happen again.

    :love:
     
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