I can feel you on that. But only being ONE black man, that doesn't help the scores of others that may not think in that manner.
Not to be contrary but.. respectively, I do not sense or feel that any black woman who chooses to engage in relations with other races as part of a "problem". I am not saying that YOU are saying this. It just moved me when I read it and I wasn't sure where you may have been coming from?
I don't know why it has to be seen as a PROBLEM? why not just a choice? Why does loving someone other than your own race, even in THIS country have make any black woman WHO she is, instead of it just being LOVE? Or how about personal choice since we can't speak for everyone's motives? I don't see it as a problem, I see it as choice.
I can not be held exclusively or culturally responsible for the choices of what others of my race make, nor can I worry about what the future holds concerning black people. We all know the ills of this culture, society and world at large but that does not dictate what my heart says to be true (for me) and that is that LOVE has no color and has no boundaries. No matter what has happened in our cultural past, which needs to be looked at, examined and healed, down to what we STILL face now, it doesn't mean that I have to follow suit with those that perpetuate hate, violence and disconnection.
But that is just ME.
peace
I think Brother khas. means "problem", in the sense of the black FAMILY dynamic. Not, PROBLEM as in your choice to date white 'men'.
But, then again wouldn't that be the same thing? If the black man is the PROBLEM, then that would cause his woman to seek other means of comfort & stability as exactly what is being discussed in this thread. So maybe that is how he meant it and i would have to agree.