The Cosmic Journeyman
- Sep 29, 2005
- Creative Industrialist
Excellent points!LOL I think Khasm was being sarcastic but you knew that. On the other hand, while I havent read the entire thread I can tell a few things just by the tone of it.
***Disclaimer- Dont take this personal, I believe that you can date/marry who you want as long as you dont live in my house and weren't born from my womb, so whatever. This is also NOT A MALE BASHING ATTEMPT-
For one I believe that interracial dating serves as a diversion from the real problem. The real problem of recognizing white supremacy for what it is and the purpose that it serves. That purpose has been to destroy the black family by weakening and destroying the image and perception of the black man/woman. This has been done in numerous ways since the first time a savage European/Arab set foot into the black lands. The first outward modern expression of this deconstruction was when Napoleon shot the nose from the sphinx.
Secondly and more importantly interracial marriage is still lower than traditional marriage. 1/10 couples are interracial. However the media and a stroll down nearly any street in Florida or Delaware would have you believe that race mixing is happening at break neck speed, when its not lol. This has been happening at a slightly higher rate than it did before the civil war. I think the problem of finding a decent mate (for educated AA women) is occurring and becoming more critical because 1. There are more black females being born than there are men. 2) Black males that are educated either already spoken for or otherwise preoccupied. 3) Many black men cant/wont compete/accept a woman that makes more money than he does. 4) Some Black women who arent educated are too **** busy worried about how much a brother brings home instead of if he brings a check home at all and what kind of person he is or what kind of dreams/aspirations he has, meanwhile she works for 8.50 an hour.
I think the problem with black women/men is that too many of us haven't been taught the value of self worth and expectations and its not entirely the fault of the parents but the system we live under. Again a system that has served its purpose well by making black people desire people outside their nature (blackness) (by default) because the ones who do look like them are unequipt and/unavailable. However I say when you know better you do better and all Im saying (in the words of Lyfe Jennings)is that you have to "be the person you wanna find, dont be a nickle out here looking for a dime" If you want a man/woman with the total package you better have one too or you're wasting your time.
In regards to two that you made...
#3. Count me in that category because if what you stated in #4.
I had a very short marriage back in the 80s because I married a woman who warned more than I did and she would ride me constantly. We hooked up when I was returning to graduate school and working part time. I never heard of the end it concerning how no good I was so why bother with me in the first place? She had many more options but I guess not as many as I did. lol!
The point is she was do caught up in the moment that she could not recognize my long term earning potential which I rapidly began to actualize once she left me. lol!
So yes, this is why I said before I stopped pursuing or approaching Black women. If they like what they see in me they will approach. Otherwise I have become very settled in rolling solo which is why these types of threads don't really phase me.
One thing I know which is typically overlooked is that I know I ain't no spousal abuser. These sisters think white boys gonna treat them like queens and raise them above the footstools they call white females? Haha! Good luck with that one. Do the research and back to your point #4.
I am sure that folks would be surprised looking at studies done concerning domestic violence. Don't think for a minute that Black men are not being abused at rates higher than Black women in some categories.
And that is the point missed here. White and other non Black women KNOW than on average that Black MEN have lower domestic violence rates than white and Latino men, on average. So, they are more aggressive in pursuing Black men, which increases the options Black men have.
Some folks here got reality twisted yet tell me I am the one who needs to stop reading books. Haha!
I know I shouldn't laugh at such a tragedy but really. There is no reason for me to be upset. Even at my age I have way more options than the bitter lemons in their 20s singing the same sour tune. Lol!