I've often noticed than when people deviate from the norm in terms of their dating choices: Inter-racial marriage, multiple partners, swingers, cheaters, even homosexuals/bi-sexuals. They often try to either recruit others to their lifestyle, or try to reason the "everyone" else is doing the same. I've often thought on why this happens. Do people who do this not have the strength of conviction to stand on their own? Are the incapable of defending their choosen lifestyle any other way than trying to convince their critics that others do the same. Do these individuals need to "convert" others into their lifestyle in order to not feel isolated? Why do non-traditionalist try to recruit others into their lifestyle?