Black Relationships : Why did you get married?

[IntuitioninMD_2]

I got married because we love each other and I was not willing to have any more 'buddies' in my life.

Also, even though I was doing fine on my own I welcomed the thought of the man in my bed being 'mine' by marriage.

I had my own career.
I had my own money.
I know my temperaments, which means I know my strengths and weaknesses.

Men before my husband where only for pleasure...like play toys. Because of the lack of trust and commitment, I downgraded them to something needed only for 'booty' calls.

Then I met my husband. With all of his wonderful qualities, I decided he was a keeper.

He is my lover and friend. That's why we got married.

Plus, the Bible states that it is better to get married than to fornicate and go to hell.

 

[Hermetic]

I got married to my wife because of our love for each other and our shared views on education, integrity, and child raising. We've been married for 20 years, with the normal ups and downs that come with a healthy relationship.

I do have a question for you, the original poster. I've noticed that you mentioned all of the other men before your husband were playthings. What I would like to know is if some of your previous relationships were with men of other ethnicities outside your own? Your answer will be very illuminating to me.

 

[IntuitioninMD_2]

I got married to my wife because of our love for each other and our shared views on education, integrity, and child raising. We've been married for 20 years, with the normal ups and downs that come with a healthy relationship.

I do have a question for you, the original poster. I've noticed that you mentioned all of the other men before your husband were playthings. What I would like to know is if some of your previous relationships were with men of other ethnicities outside your own? Your answer will be very illuminating to me.

Yes.

 

[IntuitioninMD_2]

I got married to my wife because of our love for each other and our shared views on education, integrity, and child raising. We've been married for 20 years, with the normal ups and downs that come with a healthy relationship.

I do have a question for you, the original poster. I've noticed that you mentioned all of the other men before your husband were playthings. What I would like to know is if some of your previous relationships were with men of other ethnicities outside your own? Your answer will be very illuminating to me.

It really did not matter.

 

[Hermetic]

It really did not matter.

That is great. I've seen too many examples of our people mistreating each other while fawning over people of other ethnicities (especially whites and asians). I have no problem with interracial relationships if they are made for healthy reasons. Unfortunately, I have seen too many times where the relationships were based on the fetishes of the other ethnicities and the deep seated self-hatred of the black participant.