Hey Brothas, I know I am fifty million years late on this. I just finished listening to an audio recording of Waiting to Exhale. One of the characters, Savannah, goes on a business trip where she meets this guy and they hit it off. He is everything: intelligent, a gentleman, thoughtful, humorous, has goals, all that stuff a woman puts on her hit list. Ah man why did Aretha come on singing Till You Come Back To Me right now. Why did you have to decide you had to set me free? Oh brother. Anyway, my girl says a few things that he doesn't make a big deal out of like the fact that she smokes . He mildly hints that he might have a problem with these things but the hint doesn't register on her. She has sex with him the very first day they met. They go home. She waits for him to call. After a few days without a word from him she calls him and leaves a message. This is where I scream at her "No, stupid. Don't do that." She leaves a neutral, nonchalant message on his machine. Nothing that would make her sound desperate. But he doesn't return her call. Why? Was it the part about her smoking and stuff? Do men pay attention and make decisions based on things that women just let slide? Was it that she had sex with him? All of the above?