Black People : Why are you so sensitive?

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  1. NNQueen

    NNQueen going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    I've been noticing as I read through threads that some people seem to get offended when their opinions are questioned, or disagreed with or when they don't agree with other opinions.

    People are quick to either leave a conversation, place people on ignore but before they do, they usually give a reply to a poster in what often appears as rude or meant to shut down a conversation.

    Sometimes I see name calling thrown around and labeling that is meant to be insulting and definitely judgmental. Questioning someone's "Blackness" happens quite often. That is a form of cyber-bullying in my opinion because I've seen one member reprimanded several times for doing this.

    I'm not going to name any names, that would be inappropriate. But each time I read someone who gets offended because someone else won't agree with their opinion, or will ask them a question seeking clarification of their opinion . . . the exchange between them turns into a playground event.

    This is a DISCUSSION board. This is where people write what they think and other people react to what they say. Destee and her moderators expect that these exchanges occur with respect as opposed to insults. Sometimes there's agreement; sometimes there's disagreement.

    Why are some of us so sensitive and easily offended? Why do we sometimes take things that people say to us as a personal indictment of us? Why can't we just talk to each other in respectful ways?
     
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    That's one of the reasons I tend to refrain from posting much or only read for the most part. Sometimes some folk be on some ish that ain't nothin'.
     
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    Big props for your latest reality check bro!
     
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    Maybe you read this Thread Discussion, if not, brace yourself if you decide to read it ... Friction starts on page 2 and goes to the end, page 5 :facepalm:


    The first President was John Hanson a Black man.
    Discussion in 'Black People Politics' started by shaka64, Feb 8, 2014


    https://destee.com/threads/the-first-president-was-john-hanson-a-black-man.79483/page-3#post-859317

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    This thread has hurt my feelings :10100: :10800:




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  6. NNQueen

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    This is true, and I'm well aware of it as I get passionate about things as well when I write.

    But wouldn't you agree that there is a difference between passion and insult and that our bodies react differently to each when they are expressed?

    Passion being expressed causes me to sit up and take notice, it doesn't sting or cause me to jump back and feel a rise in blood pressure like an insult will.

    As an example, the famous "I Have A Dream" speech was spoken with passion. Rudy Giuliani talking about Black on Black crime is insulting. Listening to both causes me to physically react differently.

    Maybe those weren't good examples, but they're the best I can come up with at the moment. Maybe some of you have better examples.

    Bro. Clyde, thank you for the link you provided to demonstrate the breakdown in a conversation that turned personal and insulting. Exactly, what I'm talking about here. It's as though some of you have no tolerance for others here who may not know as much as you, or may not agree with you. Why attack someone who is simply asking a question for feedback and who let's you know they are here to learn?

    Arrogance and ego . . . toxic and deadly. If it makes people feel good to be rude and insulting, I would suggest you get help with that. If you suffer from anger issues, seek help to learn how to manage it. If you only want unity among people who look like you and think like you, then say that and start a private conversation. Don't call for this monolithic Black movement, when you clearly demonstrate that you don't like some of your own people who are different than you.

    Yes, your right to free speech but try to be civil and open-minded in these discussions. We are a passionate people--and I love that about us because it's freeing to our souls. But rude and condescending? I wish we could avoid being that way to each other. Like I said, it's toxic.

    You never know who, among us, will turn out to be the one person you can depend on and your greatest ally in a tough situation.

    Peace :heart:
     
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    Well said NNQueen. Exactly.
     
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    You are very welcome Sis. NNQueen, any thoughts yet on how to quell those doing the attacking?

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    On point and on time comments:

    Thanks for caring and sharing them with all of us here!
     
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    I wish I had the answer, Bro. Clyde. But as you know as well as I do, it really depends on how well-adjusted people are and how comfortable they are in their own skin. There are a lot of angry people in the world, people who are frustrated and feel powerless and are tired of feeling that way so they lash out at the slightest nudge and usually it's directed toward the wrong people. We all get that way from time-to-time but when it becomes a habit or a part of our nature, then we have a problem. No simple answer, except that each of us has to take responsibility for our actions and know that never happens without consequences.

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