panafrica said:
This is absolutely true! However, what causes low self-esteem, and how can it be restored?
Part of the problem is having a dysfunctional or absent male rolemodel in their lives. So, in addition to wanting to meet the biological urges of physical pleasure, the emotional urges of nurturing and being nutured, some women are subconsciously seeking to replace the father figure missing in her life.
Another problem is how our society is. It is clear as soon as a girl is born, that her life is worthy only if she can 'win' a man's affections and get married. Little girls learn this lesson early through their play with Barbie, baby dolls, and whatever else contributes to this dysfunction. When they get older, they'll be bombarded with media images, magazine articles, etc. that talk about how you win a man, reinforcing what is beautiful in addition to making you feel like **** if you don't meet this standard, and so on and so forth.
How to solve this problem? That's a hard question. Even girls who had fathers in the home, such as myself, can still feel unworthy if they're not in a relationship when they grow up. Physical needs makes the issue even worse. So to be honest, I can't come up with a cureall. The problem is so deeply rooted in society that I believe if society doesn't make some effort to change, it's just going to continue. Having stable family environments do help, however.