Hello, Fam
I think a big problem with the selection process is that people take physical attraction 1st, get intimate, and if its good, forget about common sense! Naturally, SOMETHING has to attract you to this other person, but I have learned with my little bit of 33 years, that it takes a whole lot more than a handsome face, car and or a bankroll to get me started. I have NEVER dated a hustler, and the one brother who pulled a major scam or heartbreak on me must have been trying to reform himself to be a "good guy" because I was a "good girl". The brother ended up with ulcers. You can only be you. I prefer an intellectual "thug" if you will, versus someone who cannot speak or has his pants hanging off his butt. I'm not into the whole pimpin mentality. The "baby momma" thing, none of that. Some folks simply don't have their heads together, so good guys, them turning you down may have been a blessing. Trust. :spin: There are plenty of good, intelligent, independent, UNSTABLE people out here. Alot of women, people rather, simply are searching for companionship. Companionship is not always compatibility. Some are too needy, some are too jealous. Some are too nonchalant. You have to come across the one who gives you a balance. Where both person's needs are met. Alot of women compromise for whatever reason, then complain about it six months down the road. You know a bad fit the moment you try something on. We have to stop kidding ourselves.
Alot of us women do let a good guy out of our grasp because we have been conditioned or worn out to the game being played by those before you. But good guys, raise your head and be known because believe it or not, alot of us are coming out of the fog. People need to get to know each other as best they can. So what if you have a mate, but can you call her or him your friend as well? I am friends with many cool brothers that I could not see or fathom being in a relationship with. Why? Because they are on the same page with me as far as friendship issues, but when it comes to relationship issues, some of the things they practice are not cool with me. And vice versa. But I love them to death.
You being a friend puts you in a valuable position. Being genuine is a great treasure. Please don't change.