Black Relationships : Why are men less likely to forgive cheating than women?

Kemetstry

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Because when a guy cheats on a woman, she thinks, "I love that fool. He probably was seduced by her! Or he just had a moment of weakness! It won't happen again, I know!"

But when a woman cheats, guys are thinking, "Did she really just let another dude plant his flag where I already conquered? Woman with no morals! Probably went out there seducing all kinds of dudes! Who knows how many!"

In all, I think it goes to the ole "men will be men, boys will be boys". In that, it's expected for men to look for sex, even when in a relationship, so it can be forgiven when he transgresses in such a manner. But for a woman to do such a thing simply makes her immoral and out of control, so it just can't be forgiven. In society's eyes, that is.


*sigh* Men do not view sex as an emotional attachment, females usually do. By definition, you're more involved




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It seems like women are more likely to forgive cheating in a relationship than men are.

I don't have any data to support this, but looking across the landscape, it seems women are more forgiving, willing to overlook the indiscretion to keep the relationship active while men will quit if the woman were to do the same thing to them.

What's up with that?

Why aren't men equally as forgiving as women in like situations?

Or ... do you think men are equally as forgiving when it comes to their partner cheating?

Thanks in advance.

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Destee
I'm glad that you quoted that you don't have any data. The only information that I can share is based on what I've seen. Both are as equally forgiving, which is not very forgiving. On both sides, once you cheat, it's over, period! And if it seems that men are less forgiving, it's probably because the stereotype is that most, if not all black men cheat, and no one gives any real thought to the fact that this notion could be false.
 

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Peace and Blessings Family,

It seems like women are more likely to forgive cheating in a relationship than men are.

I don't have any data to support this, but looking across the landscape, it seems women are more forgiving, willing to overlook the indiscretion to keep the relationship active while men will quit if the woman were to do the same thing to them.

What's up with that?

Why aren't men equally as forgiving as women in like situations?

Or ... do you think men are equally as forgiving when it comes to their partner cheating?

Thanks in advance.

Loving Us!

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Destee


I don't know if this is true.. and I don't know if I already answered this question or not.. ( and I'm too lazy to look through the thread and see )
but it occurred to me just now that men are more readily equipped to bounce than women.. who are weighed down with children and other child-related responsibilities.
If the man is the bread-winner, it's easy to just move on. If the women is the bread-winner, it's also easy for the man to just move on to another bread-winner.
If there are kids involved, the kids are usually the mother's responsibility. So, it seems that just by the differences in how men and women occupy their space in society,
men, responsible and irresponsible alike, appear to be more mobile than women and that mobility makes it possible for them to get out of dodge more quickly.
 

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