Black People : Who's The Daddy

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  1. soblessed

    soblessed Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I have a delima, I have a child with a woman and she decided to sleep with my brother (we share the same parents), which produced a second child. She took me to court for child support but only disclosed me as the only one she slept with. I, at the time I did not know she had slept with him. I took a paternity test for the second child and they said it was mine, but I was told my brother needed to be tested as well, that never happened. I doubt it ever will. My mother seems not to care to much either becuase every time this topic is bought up she says that's your baby, and on the fact the woman slept with my brother she says you didnt like her anyway. I feel thats beside the point, I dont want to raise my nephew. But I dont feel the connection with the child like I did with the others. Can someone give me some advice or at least tell me what they think about the situation.


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    karmashines Banned MEMBER

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    Well, if you weren't the father, the test would show up negative. I don't think it matters if your brother is tested.

    As far as not feeling a connection with the second child... it's probably because you have animosity against the mother for cheating on you. You have to try to move past that for the sake of your child.

    Try to arrange to spend time with the child just father and son or daughter (whichever the child is). Try to see your child as an individual person apart from their mother's indiscretions.
     
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    I have no animosity towards the mother it is just that I have studied a little bit about dna testing. They go by a dna pattern but the pattern is common with more than one person depending on the type of testing that is done. And I am pretty sure me and my brother share this pattern. That is why they say the (probability is) because they take a guess. And with no one else tested I am the only possibility. So it is like it is close enough so he's the father.
     
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    panafrica Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Unless you and your brother are identical twins, you don't have the same DNA. If the paternity test indicated you are the father of this 2nd child, then it isn't necessary for your brother to take it...you are the father of that second child! You don't have to be with this woman (I wouldn't want to be with a woman who was sleeping with my brother either), but you need to take care of your child.
     
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    BrownSkinBrotha Banned MEMBER

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    For the sake of everyone involved, everyone should seek professional help, be it thru your Church, Mosque or any impartial organization all involved would respect, its painful I'm sure, but if it continues un-treated there is a strong risk of it tearing you and all involved apart forever. IMHO
     
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    soblessed Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    First I would like to sat thanks for your replys. I wish it was that simple but unless my brother is tested it will come back as mine. I spoke a dna specialist and i was told that both of us need to be tested even if we are not twins. With only one brother being tested, the brother who was tested it will say he is the father. once the courts found out she slept with both of us, the reordered dna testing but my brother moved to atlanta so he was not tested. Now it costs alot of money to have extensive dna testing done ( which at the moment i can't afford) and the mother will not let me get the child for testing. I just want to know if this child is mine so i can be a part of his life, if the mother lets me.
     
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