Black Relationships : Who should pay for the date? The man or the woman?

[panafrica]

UMMMMM HELLO !!!!! this about who should pay for the first date not a bebate of who bashing who , family matters , children those things has nothingto do with the question asked can we stay focus on the questionat hand here some of y'all twisting the thread . ..

You are absolutely right brother Rich. This thread was about who should pay for the date...not even the 1st date, but any date. In no way, shape, or form was this thread started to "bash" sisters. It is unfortunate that some of you think so. Truth be told, this is (should be) a race neutral thread.

 

[river]

river you wrong on that one ! ...... y'all stay focus on the question or start a
new thread this how we get all twisted from what is asked or relating too....

Wrong for what I said or wrong for saying it here?

I have voiced my views on who should pay for a date twice. The second time just to keep the thread going on that track. People do that then they get off into the reasons why they have such views and people comment on the validity of those reasons. That's where the thread goes off on so many tangents.

 

[Riada]

How did the thread get off-topic? IMO, it's obvious that any issue remotely related to male-female relationships is a sticky topic for some of the folks on the board, but to be fair, this is a major issue in the Black community, in general. And we all know that.

When I responded to this particular question, stating my OPINION, it seems like some brothas took issue with my response. Some of them began to ask me specific questions or direct their responses specifically to me which I could have ignored, but I didn't want to diss anyone.

It's interesting how questions are asked on here sometimes and it seems that a particular one-track response is wanted. If there are differing opinions aside from that particular sought-after response, then things go bonkers.

I don't think people should ask thread questions if they can't handle the answers because all of the answers are not going to be the same.

 

[$$RICH$$]

No sista river i'm not saying you did anything wrong , i don't use (quotes)
but i was answering to the remarks made (No brotha objects when black women'
in general are castigated) ...... it's no issue sista sorry if i mislead you in any way
do forgive me.

anyway i still say it maybe cause i'm out of the traditional way of doing things
on that first date a man should pay ...why not ! after a few date with the same
person then it would be nice for the woman to pay , when you see women like
this who sit back and never want to pay just show the greed of her selfishness
in today's time it's look at a 50 / 50 thing , but note there are women who will
not let a man pay for them and feel each should pay their own way , it will forever
be mix emotions on that ...So now it comes down to individuals thoughts

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And myself i would pay to take a lady out to dinner / move or whatever ,
it's just traditional but time has change from those way back when days
today who ask is who pay type of thing and even so women still look for
the man to foot the bill .........do it really matter who pay when a couple
go out , i don't think so JMO on it but that me .