Black Relationships : Who should pay for the date? The man or the woman?

[Riada]

Thanks for answering the question. But what does a man not taking care of his family have to do with this question. One could also make the case that for every man that doesn't handle his "Bidness" there an equal amount of "women" who choose men poorly. Let's not get it twisted here.

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I certainly agree with you about that--women not choosing carefully.

 

[Sekhemu]

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I certainly agree with you about that--women not choosing carefully.

Choosing poorly, and them blaming it all on the man.

 

[SAMURAI36]

Choosing poorly, and them blaming it all on the man.

True indeed.

 

[river]

when will the of brothas end? :ref:

When will the bashing of sisas end?

Always whenever someone comes here making little subtle remarks that put the brothas down I have sided with you in condemning such under handed emasculations. But y'all put sistas down without even the slightest effort to be subtle about it.

Cat's come on here talking about they can't find a good Black woman and Black women have nothing to offer and they don't want to get married becausue we're just not worth it etc etc and none of the brothas here raises so much as a peep. If anything y'all rally to his side talking about you going to the Caribbeans or wherever to find a woman.

Don't you know I am a woman? Don't you know I'm Black? Don't call me queen and tell me I'm a credit to my sex.

This is getting tired. We all have to come together better than this. Maybe both the brothas and the sistas are right that we are just screwed up and lost as a race. But as screwed up and lost as we may be let's be together about it okay.

Hotep

 

[Riada]

That still does not mean a man that makes less than you is not on your level. Does that mean that women who make less than a man, is not on that man's level? This is the main problem that I see with "successful" women. They are successful in gaining material things, but there are not successful when it comes to relating with people and keeping themselves grounded. They always point out how men and even other women are not as driven and talented as they are. They hold everyone else up to thier materialistic leveling stick, and label everyone who is not in the same financial position lazy, uneducated, unmotivated and low-class.

As far as children go, what is you pet-peeve when women don't take care of their kids? Relying on welfare and child-support from the father does not excuse women from paying their Own personal bills. Then again, you don't label that an "excuse" like you label men.

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I never connected money and "being on my level" in any post. I'm not materialistic. Maybe you have confused me with other women on the board.

There is absolutely no excuse for ANYONE having children and not taking care of them. I never mentioned anything about a woman paying her own bills. You have really confused me with someone else. I think I said clearly yesterday in a post that I don't depend on a man for ANYTHING. That's the way I was raised and that was very good rearing.