Black Relationships : who controls U?

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  1. jamesfrmphilly

    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    does your mind control your heart or does your heart control your mind?

    my political and cultural position determines who i will be open to. in other words my head is in control of my gonads.
    i cannot just "accidentally" fall in love with anyone who does not meet my standards. can U?
    I'm not going to be moved by looks or sexiness or anything else. i am going to be moved by where that person stands on the issues that are important to me.
    that is the gate through which all must pass.

    i also separate sex and love. I'm not going to fall in love just because I'm horny.
    if i feel horny i will go to the strip club and get it out of my system.
    i can love someone who i never sex and sex someone who i never love.
    can U?
    i think people often fall in "love" because they are horny.
    who is it that is in control of your arse?
     
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    maatmama Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    EXACTLY.....the way to my heart is through my mind....using certain "political/cultural/spiritual filters" has saved me alot of time and energy...
     
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    I control who I want to be with. I use my own judgement concerning an individual and their beliefs and stance on issues that are similar to my own. I definately don't allow myself to be ushered in a certain direction by people who have their own issues with particular people. I don't use guidelines set by other individuals or orginizations to determine who is considered bad and who is determined to be good, because those guidelines are flawed and PURPOSELY distorted. I don't fall in love just because I'm horny, and I seriously doubt too many people do. All in all, I just choose individuals who are sincere with what they say and do, and I try not to make assumptions beforehand.
     
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    I agree with this perspective.

    The only thing I can add is that falling in love period is related to the gonads whether a person follows a particular blueprint or not. People wouldn't be here if it wasn't for our body's sex drives. It is the desire for romantic union coupled with for some the urge to make a family, that causes people to seek love in the first place.

    Regardless the blueprint for who is the right person is dependant upon that individual, and not everyone's blueprints will match up with others.
     
  5. jamesfrmphilly

    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    is that the week prior to the full moon?

    :dance3:
     
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    Speaking honestly, I fall in love with intellect.
    I have sexed people I have loved and loved people I have not sexed as well.
    Speaking from a woman who has never had a sexual orgasim it is definately the person! See in my opinion it kills if the two are not compatible.If you let it,It can also control emotional well-being if that's the main focus of your relationship.
     
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    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    sorry, I'm retired................:shades:
     
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    cursed heart Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Funny james!:kiss1:
     
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    I FEEL THE SAME WAY THAT YOU ALL DO MY HEART IS IN CONTROLL OF MY MIND
     
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    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    um, you got that backwards..........:coffee:
     
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