does your mind control your heart or does your heart control your mind? my political and cultural position determines who i will be open to. in other words my head is in control of my gonads. i cannot just "accidentally" fall in love with anyone who does not meet my standards. can U? I'm not going to be moved by looks or sexiness or anything else. i am going to be moved by where that person stands on the issues that are important to me. that is the gate through which all must pass. i also separate sex and love. I'm not going to fall in love just because I'm horny. if i feel horny i will go to the strip club and get it out of my system. i can love someone who i never sex and sex someone who i never love. can U? i think people often fall in "love" because they are horny. who is it that is in control of your arse?