Black Relationships : Which is more important in a relationship

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Which is more important in a relationship

  1. To be loved is the most important thing in a relationship.

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  2. To be respected is the most important thing in a relationship.

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  3. You can't have one without the other.

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  1. Radical Faith

    Radical Faith Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Whether it be a courtship or marriage most of us have witnessed someone having respect for their mate in the sense of reverance but not loving them. Can someone love someone without of respecting them or are the two inseparable? Please respond...
     
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    karmashines Banned MEMBER

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    I understand how you can have respect and not love, but definitely don't grasp it the other way around.

    Regardless, I voted that you need both. Relationships that don't have any type of love would have no passion that would keep the flame going. Both parties would be unhappy, which would spread to the kids. I would think even in cultures that advocate arranged marriage where there was 'respect' to begin with without the 'love,' it would grow into pure love as the couple spent more time together.

    And as far as love with no respect... if you don't respect someone you're going to treat them in a manner reflective of that.
     
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    I agree you can respect a person and not love them, but I also think you can love them and not respect them.

    I mean you can love them, yet know they're not up to par to the extent that you respect them. For ex. There are people who love absolute fools but have no respect for them.

    From my spouse, I could live without love, but I couldn't live without respect.
    However, I would naturally want both.
     
  4. Tantrum

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    I think they are inseperable
    Yet I think you can respect your relationship
    Yet not love them I really do
    Love is a deep word that people are so brainwashed
    Into thinking that person really cares about me
    Its a four letter word that is used to break hearts
    It really doesnt mean anything when I hear it
    Yet to respect your mate and have an open mind
    Towards the person you are with is truely priceless
     
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    cursed heart Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    In a relationship you can have respect but not love them.I could respect you because you pay the bills on time.
    I could respect you because you are good father,good business man,intelligent,secure,but my heart doesn't love you, my mind does.
    You must be emotionally,spiritually,physically compatible to love and the respect will come naturally!
    I wanted to ask you when you say love, is it being in love or love?
    There is a difference!
     
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    I think you can't have one without the other in a ture relationship
    towards marriage respect anyone can give, but to love brings willing
    understanding that opens for a emotional , spiritual and physical means
    that brings respect and trust as well loyality if your heart is really feeling
    your mate .

    you can't love and don't respect , but you can respect and not love a person
    in a relationship both go hand n' hand ......................................................
     
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    I agree with this.
     
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    I think you can love someone and not respect them, and vice-versa. If you cheat on someone, they may still love you after finding out, but they may not respect you. One has nothing to do with the other. I definately don't think a relationship can work without having both. I wouldn't want to be with a woman that loved me but didn't respect me. Both are very important in a relationship.
     
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    Yup hard for the survival
    Of a true relationship
    Between two individuals
     
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    You need both....without a doubt!
     
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