Black People : Where's Our Respect?!!!

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  1. NADIA*BINTA

    NADIA*BINTA Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Collars cut way down low, showing cleavage and breast, win preference over tunics and shirts with turtlenecks. Skirts that once drug the ground in dirt, inched upward bound plenty to mini and micro-minis. Swimwear once resembling capris and a slight halter, now altered to what society calls a bikini.
    Oh, how our fashion statements have changed over time and needless to guess the pattern of dress is less and less. Watching television day in, day out, I wonder what this lack of clothing is all about. Sexy figures in videos, on talk shows, in magazines, on movie screens, pretty much everywhere and in everything there's a flood of sexuality.
    QUESTION:...am I unsexy if I don't let society dress me in a remnant of fabric?
    Dressing for the day ahead, I put on jeans, a shirt with 3/4 sleeves, and a hair wrap, covering my adornments instead. With each outer garment in its place, I wonder what's the difference between a bikini and underwear?
    Out the door, I wonder some more about this trend as I watch the people around me, billboards on high, and advertisements on buses passing by. SEX SELLS! Doesn't matter if the act is literally fulfilled or if simply for the eyes' appeal. Doesn't matter if the product is shampoo, rice, speakers or jeans, oft time it seems there's eye candy thrown into the picture, as if the woman or sexual fantasy is included in the package!
    As a woman, there is struggle enough having my voice and issues taken seriously if covered from head to toe. So if I have on a shirt revealing 3/4 of my top while engaging in conversation with the opposite sex, is he more interested in what's on my mind, coming from my mouth OR what's about to pop out my top? Where's my respect if all he sees is my chest?
    Sistahs, are we truly liberated or oppressed? Could it be we're caught is a web of chains, from SEXISM and EXPLOITATION, yet completely unaware? WHERE'S OUR RESPECT?!!!
    A nation can rise no higher than its woman, for through our wombs we bring forth all nations. Thus, we are the MOTHERS OF CIVILIZATION. We serve as the first teachers and moral guide to our children, but what jewels are we instilling, especially within our daughters? Keep in mind they are watching the examples we set.
    It's vital we define, attain and maintain our respect in all endeavors and walks of life (SOCIALLY, POLITICALLY, RELIGIOUSLY, etc) letting noone neglect the respect that's due.

    peace, love & RESPECT
    NADIA*BINTA
     
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    Welcome to the forum Nadia!

    I think you summed it up pretty good, and you asked a very pertinent question..."Where's Our Respect?"

    Is it respect that's being compromised or is there something else going on that we just can't define?
     
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    PEACE

    Thanks for the welcome and reply ZeroGravity.

    I definitely think our respect is being compromised, but I also believe alot of us lack TRUE IDENTITY, therefore we embrace stereotypical images plastered on television each and everyday.
     
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    welcome !!!

    welcome to destee's family of love
    nice topic where is the respect ......
    u said it loud & clear defined it so well
    indeed so many have been lost in the myth of what they see
    or hear and lost true contact on respect for them self and others
    welcome again :)
     
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    True Identity ...

    now there's a topic ... "True Identity".

    How does one obtain "True Identity"? Is it something that is bestowed upon birth? Is it something that is obtained with age/experience? Is it something that is taught? Does True Identity contain any biases or personal perceptions?

    I would love to hear your perception of what True Identity is to you and what do you think are the factors that have eroded this precious commodity from us, and how/what you think we could do to restore it.
     
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    Good topic and exchange so far. I'm looking forward to some interesting discussion. I'll post my thoughts later. First I want to give others a chance to share their opinions! :)
     
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    Yo, ZeroGravity you have some deep feedback... I appreciate ya stretching my brain (smile)...

    How does one obtain TRUE IDENTITY? To be perfectly honest I'm still obtaining my true identity more and more each day, not quite there yet. With this Gemini personality there is definitely DUALITY! But I believe seeking true knowledge of God, will help me find my true identity, seeing how we're made in HIS IMAGE & LIKENESS.

    Is it (TRUE IDENTITY) something that is bestowed upon birth? Yes, I do believe it's bestowed upon birth, but I also believe as we grow more so into this world we're lost to that knowledge until we finally meet again. I believe The Creator put everything necessary to obtain our life's purpose within us, but I think it's on us to look w/n and tap into those necessities as we move along our personal journey.

    Is it something that is taught? To a certain extent, yeah, but I can only speak for myself personally.

    Can it contain any biases or personal perceptions? Yes I think it can. Can I explain?... Let me get back to you on that one (smile).

    Factors that have eroded this precious commodity from us? Wow... I think there are many... but I think the experiences of PHYSICAL and MENTAL SLAVERY that we've experienced and STILL experience really hit us COLLECTIVELY (past & present generations) with a major blow.
     
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    $$RICH$$,

    Thanks for the feedback and welcome.... peace
     
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    NNQueen,

    Peace Queen, looking forward to more thoughts you might post.
     
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    ZeroGravity,

    In one of my responses to you, i said i believe identity is bestowed upon birth... and The Creator has placed everything necessary to obtain our life's purpose...

    i still say that.

    Just wanted to add: I believe God is the LORD of The Ways of Ascent.

    Lord meaning the fostering of a thing in such a manner as to make it attain one condition after another until it reaches its goal of completion. (I believe completion is TRUE KNOWLEDGE of God, TRUE KNOWLEDGE of self.)

    So we may not recognize who we are to begin with, but eventually (God willing) - with His help we do.

    peace
     
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