My daughter's cousin is only 17 and my cousin is only 15 and they are both sexually active. But the 17 yr old wanted to spend the night at my aunt's house with me so we could get up and go to church in the morning? I knew she liked my cousin and I told her not to do anything to disrespect my aunt's house. Unfortunately they had sex and now my aunt knows. Am I wrong for giving my daughter's cousin the cold shoulder? Even after I warned her that my cousin's sisters would whoop her a** she did it anyway. And she wonders why she's not welcome over there anymore. She doesnt know that I know but I have given her vibes that I am unhappy with her. Is it not my place to do that, I sometimes feel like it is and other times i don't. You just don't mess with family!