Hello and welcome to the Destee family. As a newbie myself, you will find as I did, that there are lots of good people here. Now, to the subject at hand. Sweetie, for most of us, the sceanario you painted does constitute a degree of cheating, simply because it is inappropriate. Did you ever introduce your wife to this woman? Ever spoke of her to your wife before? It is not the way to introduce what is supposed to be a platonic office relationship into your marriage. You will be attracted to other women, some perhaps strongly. How you carry yourself and respect your relationship either in or out of the sight of your wife is your rock. Most men cannot stand the thought of another man stepping to someone they consider theirs, you really don't want to be on the other side do you? If you have something good and solid, don't let an office "distraction" ruin what you've built. Best of luck to you.