today my wife came to my office with me. tacked on my office wall was a valentines day note from a co-worker (the co-worker is a female, its not that kind of party). it was nothing erotic or outlandish. just a note that came with a couple of pieces of candy. so after reading the note my wife is like whats this? and who is ******? i told her just a friend that i clown with while im at work. after discussing it for almost an hour and giving up every deail about this woman i finally told my wife that yes i find her attractive and we flirt with each other but i have never even seen this girl outside of work, and probably never will. then came the quicksand question. if you could would you kiss her? i hesitated and said no. to make a long story longer, the conversation ended with us not agreeing on what the boundaries of cheating are. my definition has always been cheating involves sex. kissing someone, lusting over incredably fine women on the street, talking dirty to women on line cannot hardly be called cheating. i apologize if this ground has been covered but i am curious to know what some of the opinions are about the definition of "cheating"