Black Relationships : When I See You

Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by Standard, Aug 1, 2016.

  1. Standard

    Standard Member MEMBER

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    Was watching Fantasia's video (
    ) and thought why women (and maybe men too) do this ?

    If you are attracted to someone why would you avoid them ? Isn't your goal/aim to get close to them ???

    Please explain. Confused.

    Can you imagine the devastation if one day you find out that the person has moved to another city/state ?
     
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    There are many reasons one might choose to avoid a person they're attracted to (most revolve around egos):
    1. We may not feel that we're worthy of that person's affections...and fear rejection.
    2. Ladies, generally, want the man to make the first move, and...when he hasn't after so long...she tends to want to stay out of his space. again, bruised ego.
    3. Ordinary men, with fragile egos, tend to stay away from beautiful women. again, that fear of rejection.

    If you're not an A-Type personality, your confidence may not allow you to approach someone beyond what you might consider to be within your spectrum of accessibility/attainment/conquest...so, you walk the other way.

    There are so many reasons. Fortunately, most men get over their fears pretty fast...and realize that we all have a fifty-fifty chance when meeting anyone.

    you never know...until you try.