Black Relationships : When does "Ours" become "Mine"?

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  1. Ionlyspeaktruth

    Ionlyspeaktruth Banned

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    A serious topic. I am posting this because my "play" cousin parents have this issue. Dad, worked for years, as did moms. they own 2 properties, one of which is a rental prop. He seemingly has to ask his wife to spend a damm dime. His van just broke down and he like has to consult her before taking it to the shop.:SuN048: I never hear their $ referred to as "our" $! Now, this is not the only case like this that I have come across. Me? I dont get it. While I have been a person reluctant to accept anything from folk, that does not include my mate or S.O. Am I wrong for thinking that this is a problem? Just what is going on? :SuN035:
     
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    oldiesman Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    very few of us really knows what goes on behind closed doors in a marriage[nor should we]maybe the wife handles the money and therefor the husband has to consult her on money matters,in many households the wife handles the finances and most husbands like it that way so maybe it's that way with the folks you speak of.
     
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    HE MOST LIKELY

    DON'T KNOW HOW TO MANAGE THE MONEY PROPERLY. IF YOUR MARRIED, SOME FOLKS PUT ALL THEIR MONEY IN THE SAME POT. THEN THEY PROVIDE THE NEEDS OF EVERYONE. IF HE JUST WENT IN AND STARTED SPENDING THE MONEY HOWEVER HE FELT LIKE IT, THEY PROBABLY WOULDN'T HAVE A DIME TO CONSULT ON. WHAT'S MINE IS YOURS, AND WHAT'S YOURS IS MINE IN A MARRIAGE. IS KINDA OLD FASHION, BUT YOU CAN SEE YOUR MONEY GROW WHEN EVERYONE HAS SOME CONTRAINTS. I'M SURE SHE CONSULTS HIM EVERY TIME SHE WANTS A GUCCI PURSE TOO! ;)
     
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    IMHO

    I dont handle money well at all. In my house my Queen handles it or I wouldnt have a pot 2 (well u know the rest). I am a quote of kids and will go broke if she didnt take care of the money. Now, when it comes 2 repairing sumtin I do what I must but in general, she is in control.

    Im like Pooky in New Jack City ( It jus be callin me man, it be callin me).
     
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    THAT'S RIGHT NASHEED, LOL.. YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO;)
     
  6. Ionlyspeaktruth

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    :em0100::SuN018::haha::haha::haha: Uhhhh. You had to go there huh? the old pot to p##s in deal I am currently in the 12 step program for such ailments.:10500::10500::10500: :uhh::uhh:
     
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    Is there room for another in your class:haha:
     
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    Yes Ma'am. I may not be a smart man but I know who 2 give my money 2.:donttell:
     
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    Yeah, theres room. You can probably catch up with me in a day or so...... I am on step one!:confused::qqb002: Look, keep your wise cracks to yourself, its only been 5 years!!:bye::bye::bye:
     
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    You dont know what has happened in the past to bring this about. He may have jack off all the money in the past and this is the only way she would stay with him. Or he may have got caught with his pants down. Or, he just likes being hen pecked. :lol:















     
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