Black Relationships : What's the "Right" Reason to Get Married?

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  1. river

    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    I hear so much about the wrong reasons. What are the right reason(s) to get married?

    If I go down a list and find that I check out for five wrong reasons can I still get married if I have one right reason?
     
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    Love & compatability off the top of my head
     
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    Hopefully love would help deal with all of the wrong reasons. :coffee:
     
  5. river

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    There ya go, sugah.The right and the wrong will be there no matter what because we are hman but love balances it out.
     
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    River



    I hear so much about the wrong reasons. What are the right reason(s) to get married?

    Love

    Money

    Security

    Sexual fullfillment

    Children

    Middle-class values






    If I go down a list and find that I check out for five wrong reasons can I still get married if I have one right reason?

    I wouldn't advice it sis,

    It may be right to get married, but not to that particular individual if they have too many faults and negative traits.


    I hate to disagree with you and Karma, but too many women make the mistake of thinking LOVE will take care of everything.


    Now what love WILL do is get you hurt trying to stay in a relationship that was never meant to be, or trying to change a man who doesn't want to change.
     
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    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    When I say "wrong reasons" I don't mean faults necessarily but just wrong reasons. Like I would think marrying for money and middleclass values is a wrong reason. Some people would think sexual fulfillment is a wrong reason but that's the only thing really that differentiates between a spouse and a friend.
    I wish with all my heart that I could disagree with you but...ya'll know my story.
     
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    I can't answer this question....and I have sat here trying. LOL, I guess I'll know the RIGHT reason if I'm ever faced with it, in the meantime....Being single is where it's at - a stress free environment!
     
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    IMO, there really are no good reasons to get married. Some people say they marry for love, and some marry for the sake of not living in sin. Love should be there whether you're married or not. People marry to avoid living in sin, but they divorce, and that's a no-no according to a lot of religions also. All in all, there are no good reasons to get married because marriage doesn't do anything for your relationship except make it harder to leave if things get bad. Not that they will, but like anything in life, it's not guaranteed. Marriage is more for peace of mind than anything, because people need someone to validate the love that they have between them........IMO. If that wasn't the case, people wouldn't feel so empty without it.
     
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    1. Love
    2. Wanting to achieve similar goals
    3.Willing to give without expecting something in return
    4.Spiritual,mental,emotional,physical connection
    5.Wanting to go into the marriage for the right reasons,not for money, to build self esteem or because people want the two of you to become married.
    6.Not going into the marriage because you want a title
    7. Love again
     
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