As you all well know I recently broke up with my girlfriend and although I got some replies I was surprised that not many more commented. Anyway my question extends beyond the previous thread that I had created because I wanted to know how in the datring world I should approach black women. Again, as a "good guy" it is quite difficult to meet an exceptional black woman (by exceptional I mean someone who is great for me) without being called weak for being good. Very recently I did my own personal study of sisters and I was quite astonished. I noticed that women (much like men) don't recognize me outside the sphere of attraction, that is, anything which may enhance my "attractiveness" per se. I noticed that when I wear tank tops (I weight lift religiously) women notice me. But when I wear regular gear women don't. Obviously it is because one catches the eye of the other and the other one doesn't. but more importantly it seems when I open my mouth and articulate myself in an educated way to my sisters it is two things: I'm either trying to be white (funny that my people think all things educated and great are white) or I'm weak. What is unfortunate is because while my search for that "queen" is becoming hopeless I'm getting more other ethnic groups appraching me, more so Asian and White. Now, I wasn't raised to discriminate despite my mother formerly being in th NOI (Nation of Islam). I'm not trying to mess the groove up here but I honestly don't feel appreciated by black women despite my constant respect for black woman. I'm honestly sick of being chastised and being called weak or some other ignorant name all because I was raised old fashioned and respectful. I don't know if its a California thing or whatever but I'm starting to feel that sisters don't appreciate good men. What I do think is some women in my age group 21-28 don't have a good understanding of what a good man is. Even older women they for some reason reject me because they say "I'm too young" so either way I'm screwed. I'm not saying that I'm giving up on sisters but its quite hard to not see what's going on on the other side of the fence if you know what I mean.