Black Relationships : Whatever Happened To Courtship?

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  1. Liberty

    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Courtship will never die; the chase is too important to men, for courtship to die.
     
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    Courtship has been replaced by " Casual Dating " and the " Hook Up ". It could be argued that the over dependence on communicating thru cell phone texting (sexting) and the internet has taken the personal nature of courtship out of the equation





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    We need and want our human contacts:

    Or the servants will become our masters too!!

    Ever cautious and always wary...

    Be it my contacts here in cyberspace...

    Or out there in the real world!!!

    fyi
     
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    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Well, what is the main objective of "the chase"?
     
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    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    I agree with you, Kem. (ain't that scary?)

    Not so much in our generation but definitely in the younger generation.

    Young girls and guys unabashedly announcing that they "hooked up" with someone they hardly know, and for no good reason.

    *smh*
     
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    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Please explain this part:

    Or the servants will become our masters too!!
     
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    :10900:after i hit it if the poom poom was good, then i might court her.......
     
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    everything a man does, once he meets a woman he's interested in, is to get the woman.
    the flirting
    the teasing
    all efforts to get her to say yes...to the:
    dinner and dancing
    picnics in the park
    weekend movies
    walks along the beach
    the theatre
    etc
    etc
    etc.
    which leads to "get to know me" moments.

    called courtship.

    yes, social media has become another tool to be used in that effort, but social media can never replace courtships. granted, "the hookup," and "friends-with-benefits," has a foothold in sexual interactions, but when you get serious about a relationship, you're not looking for a hookup...and you don't want friends-with-benefits.

    the chase encompasses those actions that's required to catch the object of your desires...when "hello" isn't enough to wow her, right off the bat. for those men who've forgotten what the chase is about, or what capturing the lady is about, you may as well hang them out to dry. for them, that's a wrap.

    one man's opinion...from one who thoroughly enjoyed the chase.
     
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    :10900:i had a short attention span.......
     
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