Black Relationships : What Would You Do?

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  1. sexe1

    sexe1 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Your in a relationship and you know that "the thrill is gone" but you find out that either you or your partner is pregnant. Do you stay and try the family thing while at the same time trying to re-spark the flame?? Or do you think of alternative ways to dis-associate yourself with them and end the relationship?
     
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    hummmmm!!!!! betta let Kem handle dis one

    but u can look at it in two wayz
    yes if da spark is gone then move on
    yet be there for da child .......but if u see
    any light then set da stage and try to work
    things out sometime it works and try da
    family thang ........i do have more on this !!!
    after my flight i'll be back to spell out more.:)
     
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    hey Kem

    ya right man !
     
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    Yall Forget??

    Johnny Taylor. " It's CHEAPER TA KEEP HER!!

    When its over, keep your head down. Your heart up.
    And your mind focused on the future. Kids grow UP !!

    As adults they honor whats right or they don't. People who stay past due destroy their kids chances for a healthy stable enviornment. Kids be in the street tryin to be known..bein raised all too often by other kids out in the same street bein known..
    By the dealers the cops and the fowl vipers that prey on them:eek:
     
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    yes sir ....

    Tophat i gotta agree wit ya here coz i see
    so many in dis mad destructional mist:eek:
     
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    My opinion

    I suggest recalling what ignited the fire in the beginning and work from there...

    there are many exeptions to this rule but most children thrive in a two parent household...

    :)
     
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    Afri ........that's true but i have seen some from a single home
    make it coz they had good home trainning to this point
    sometime da spark is gone u can't lite a fire on wet paper but
    i have known if ya heart is still their then there is hope and for
    the children sake things work out .......like da Jordan family
    they still have it in heart to work things out but most females
    don't look back coz when there minds mad up it ova fo sho
    now a brutha he will look back again & again this is true
    we don't wanna amit it now a sistah will look ova da problem
    and see if it's worthy......I say in order for it to work and
    getting back together even when da fire goes out it gotta come
    from da heart and not out of guilt or some passion or feelin
    sorry for the other mate and it's sad how so many break da
    vows made under GODS watchful eye and da children see this
    yes it will affect them in a very big way......we gotta stop
    breaking the laws on this and if ya committed to he/she then
    try to work it out if not move on!
     
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    sexe1 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    My thought...so far

    First let me start off by saying thanks to $$Rich$$, Kemetstry, Tophat, and Afridancr for commenting on this particular issue.

    I feel that if it's over than it's over....no need to sit and try to ignite a flame that has been douced. I think it's a bad thing when someone stays for the sence of " It's cheaper to keep her" cause it usually end's in infidelity and the backlash of that can be more severe than a simple breakup. At the same token it's not a good thing if you have child and either parents evades responsilibity. And I am not just talking about men....cause women do it too!!!
     
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    Sexe1, love your dancer icon. It be "jammin! Your advice is factual too :)
     
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    hey tophat she be on hit man wit da info