Black People : WHAT TO DO

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  1. truetothecause

    truetothecause Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I'm wondering...

    How do YOU keep it moving:?:

    Tonite, I'm feeling extremely SAD and hopeless. My people are hurting and I'm hurting too. I'm tired of all the bickering, fighting, backbiting and un-trustworthiness. I'm tired of watching the events unfold to destroy the SPIRIT of AFreekaness.

    "Caring" and "Loving" "black" folks is a liability that I'm NOT willing to give up.
    At the same time, I KNOW it is this very Caring and Loving that leaves me in a very vulnerable position.

    At lot of my sadness and pain probably has to do with the "work" I do on a daily basis. Hearing and Seeing the EFFECTS OF SLAVERY in the lives, minds, hearts and most importantly, the BEHAVIORS of the people directed towards the self and others.

    For those of a FULLY CONSCIOUS MIND....how do you maintain:?:
    IN PARTICULAR....those who have no "mate" who is also CONSCIOUS or those who are surrounded by those who either don't WANT TO KNOW or those too sick to KNOW that they DON'T KNOW:?:

    Recently, I had a Man of Afreekan Descent, who holds a "high position" in the organization I work for, who betrayed my trust. I suppose, in the end, it's MY FAULT for "trusting" him yet I did and now my work environment is more "hostile" ...as I experience it. It's NOT SAFE to TALK and to hold it all in is not safe.

    What to do and where to turn. I live in a "bluelight" district and the people are comfortable with engaging in destructive behaviors and are not able to offer any hope or support.

    I'm FEELING the Stress and Trauma and it HURTS....my SPIRIT.

    "and if I get lucky, maybe I'll make it to [fifty]..HAPPY STILL AIN'T NO FRIEND OF MINE" (Tanya Stephens, Cherry Brandy)

    Stress- Internal or External influences that disrupt an individual's normal state of well-being
    Positive Stress - Adverse experiences that are short-lived and a normal and part of the developmental processes

    Tolerable stress - More intense but relatively short-lived. With adequate support, unlikely to cause long-term problems

    Toxic Stress
    - Sustained adversity. Children unable to manage this by themselves and can lead to permanent changes in brain development.

    Traumatization occurs when both internal and external resources are inadequate to cope with external threat.

    I am living with Toxic Stress and have not sufficient nor adequate resources to "cope".

    Do ya'll and if so..where are you getting it from:?:

    I do the best I can with meditations, Ancestral 'worship', recognizing the "power within"...yet...these things seem insufficient in the face of continued Toxic stress....sustained adversity

    Can anyone help a SiStar out:?:


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  2. Clyde C Coger Jr

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    Sister true,

    It seems that you are doing all the right things, and I'm unable to pinpoint what's missing. Hopefully, you will determine what it is that's missing soon. My heart goes out to your sadness hoping tomorrow will be better for you.

     
  3. truetothecause

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    Thank You Brother Clyde for Responding.

    I KNOW that what is missing for me is An Afreekan Collective....right here....right now and maybe...just maybe...

    "two strong arms to hold on to me" (Stephanie Mills)


    Also...LIBERATION or Active Steps by many more us of....IN FRONT OF THE COMPUTER SCREEN if you will could help.

    Having the "resources"...BOTH internally and externally to effectively deal with the "sustained adversity" I/We experience as AFREEKANS on a daily basis.

    I'm too young to retire and old and wise enough to be dang tired to the constant and continued B.S. WE are forced to "live".

    Anywho...every little bit helps and I too..."hope" my day is different 2morrow.
    Yet, I KNOW ...I will get up in the am and go to "work" and LISTEN to a lot of Afreekan Descendants talk about or talk around RACISM/white lunacy in their live without EVER mentioning those words. AND....I will have to sit in silence while those same whites parade around in the name of "helping" those who are considered "mentally ill", "sociopaths" etc...AND watch other "Afreekans" collect a paycheck for their contributions to the "helping".....I'm just tired of it ALL......tonite.

    Thanks again for Sharing with....


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    I send my love

    and my warm thoughts right now, what I can offer you is empathy and gratitude for coming forth with your honesty. I know first hand what it feels like to swim in dirty water and try to come out clean.

    "IN PARTICULAR....those who have no "mate" who is also CONSCIOUS or those who are surrounded by those who either don't WANT TO KNOW or those too sick to KNOW that they DON'T KNOW"

    But this thread ain't about me, it's about giving you a hand in rejuvenating yourself.

    As a caretaker, caregiver, and conscious member of the Moors of America (I'm studying Nobel Drew Ali right now); I recommend using whatever resources are at your disposal right this second. For instance, if you have sea salt in your home. Place 1 cup of sea salt in your bath water and sit there for a good while. If you have a bit of disposable income may I suggest adding the following essential oils: balsam, petitgrain, lavender, myrtle, ho wood, and tangerine. The latter is a list of ingredients used to release old energy and rejuvenate the spirit.

    Also, make sure your body is getting the vitamins and minerals it needs, when the body is stressed this get stripped very quickly. Can you get Redox tablets where you are? The Vitamin B & C complex which I recommend for stress.

    Get a therapeutic massage! (I'm so going to take my own advice asap) because the adrenal glands excrete cortisol into the body, and during periods of prolonged stress and trauma, this damages muscle tissue. Give the muscles of your body a helping hand (literally) and detox them manually.

    If you can afford it, I would recommend a therapist 2 a month; especially if you deal with unnatural levels of stress.

    I'm sure that monitor your diet appropriately so I won't go into that.
    Crying is healing, but cry with a purpose and if you can write about your anger that can help. Lastly, exercise. Whatever you do make time for a physical activity that you enjoy. Exercise will produce the happy hormones from your brain and help balance your endocrine system.

    Lastly, move your mind off of what ails you, and do it immediately. Let go of the guilt, you deserve time for your life and for your happiness. So, picture in your mind what makes you happy. Look for little things first, and then something bigger. Plan to do something for yourself that will make you happy, and it doesn't have to serve others, or involve helping anyone!


    I wish I had more to offer you SiStar, but since I'm in a real similar boat, what I can extend to you is the love from my soul, and a cosmic hug to let you know you are so very deeply appreciated and you will make it through. BELIEVE IT.
     
  5. Clyde C Coger Jr

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    Abena,

    We are still going at it very hard with the GroupThink Project-Group, if you are willing, perhaps you could participate even though your schedule doesn't permit. Our focus is mental liberation of our people, and your input could be provided to the feedback thread which would keep you busy with something to look forward to, as well.

     
  6. truetothecause

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    Thank You SiS phynxofkmt!

    I DO have sea salt and can do that. Also, I am in the position to get the other things you suggest and will do 2morrow!

    Many of the other things you mention I KNOW are lacking and most days, I just DON'T have the energy to do. I come home to family who are in need or am just too overwhelmed from all I've taken in in the course of a day in my "job".

    Saddest thing of all...is I have the vitamins, the cleaners, the exercise bike yet...there is a part of me that just wants OUT of this madness.

    I KNOW nothing else except HONESTY ...plain and simple and also KNOWING this is not a "good thing" in such a time as these.

    I DO NOT practice healthy ANYTHING most days save my meditations of that which I desire to BE and "my best is NOT good enough".....
    "my fault" in the end. "It's hard, it's hard, it's hard" and HARD is something I am TOO intimately familiar with.

    My muscles have been aching more and more and the resources...EMOTIONAL first and foremost, is NOT sufficient to sustain me.

    I'm afraid I am living a "death wish". I DON'T like it nor desire to have it...yet...it SEEMS to be there...when I check my own behaviors.

    It's 2 am and I feel TOO late to be taking a sea salt bath even tho I have the ability to do so. I DO see a "therapist" yet, HE is an Afreekan Descendant of the christian faith who has "made it" out and I don't think he really "get's it". It's interesting cause I KNOW he is learning more from me than the other way around. Thank goodness he does not charge me!

    I will go and see him 2 morrow as well THEN...I WILL do the sea-salt.
    I prolly need another day to purchase the items you suggest so I can go the next step.

    Thanks again SiS and PLEASE DON'T STOP sending out Loving Vibes and Energy for the Survival of my SPIRIT while I'm still on this side...PLEASE..dont' give up on me even tho today...it may SEEM I've given up on self.

    I N.E.E.D you ALL....at least...those who are TRULY interested in the CAUSE!


    M.E.
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  7. truetothecause

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    I will DO that which I can Brother Clyde!

    Song just came on the player...


    "what do you do at 2 in the morning when you got no friends"....(Cherry Brandy...Tanya Stephens...track # 38 in the Recovery Room)

    "who wants to know that your crying an river"....


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    JUST FOR THE RECORD....

    I DO NOT drink cherry brandy on a regular basis...in fact...they don't even sell it in pa.:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

    The message in the music is what I hear!

    They have a "war pon drugs" (track # 6 http://rnanetwork.ning.com/)




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    Good sister true, and I am saying good night to you now.

     
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    Is your "job" the source


    of your stress? Have you been holding onto something that the ancestors are asking you to release, like your "job"? I don't want to pressure you or ask nosy questions, I'm only seeking to illuminate the root of the uneasiness. Is there another direction that you can take your skills, or creatively market your experience in a new way that you would believe is productive? I'm guessing you work in a hospital / hospice / etc...

    When you ask your highest self what is the one thing I need to change to improve my life what is the very first word you receive?