I was taken aback when my husband told me I was selfish. Me??? Selfish???? No way. I have no problem giving anyone something they need or just really want. When I see something that I know someone will like I get it for them just to see them smile. No one had ever accused me of being selfish. But then he pointed outr that's because I've always lived alone. He was right. I love to give but marriage is not about giving. It's about sharing. It's easier to give a hundred dollars than it is to share a dollar. Once you give that hundred you are through with it. The person can wipe their tail with it and it won't affect you. But you still have vested interest in that dollar you are sharing with someone. Your needs still have to be met with that dollar that is still a part of your personal budget. That's where we find out if we are truly selfich or generous. Whether it is money or time or chores or emotions. There is nothing in the single life that will prepare us for marriage. The number one question we must ask when considering marriage is "Am I ready to grow (change)? " Because that is exactly what we will be doing.