WHAT MAKES A MAN A MAN??

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  1. SAMURAI36

    SAMURAI36 Banned MEMBER

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    I'm hearing all sorts of stuff these days on here, about men shouldn't cry, men shouldn't complain and whine, men shouldn't do all sorts of stuff that is not considered "manly". Mostly from people who are not men to begin with.

    I would like to know from whence these notions come.

    How is manhood defined--especially as it pertains to Black men? And perhaps more importantly, WHO defines it?

    Is it a universal premise, or does individuality factor into the equation? Does it very from generation to generation? From nationality to nationality? From culture to culture? From race to race?

    I have my own notions about this, and will share them upon request.

    But right now, I would like to know what others think about this subject.

    Please feel free to share your thoughts.

    PEACE
     
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    Find and read the book, "Surviving The Myth of Being Male". Can't remember the author, but it was popular in the late '70's. So now, I do what I do and feel what I feel.
     
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    Men GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD!!!!!

    Women BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD!!!!!



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    Btw,


    From now on, each male will be required to display their membership in the He-Man, Woman-Haters Club. Failure to do so, will result in them being forced to wear matching pastel clothing

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    i do. and i define it as the ability to care for and satisfy his women.
     
  6. SAMURAI36

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    See, this is what I was afraid of.

    Is the manhood of Black men strictly defined around his interactions with women?

    Because if that's the case, then obviously I'm out of the runnings.

    :(

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    Excellent suggestion, I'll check that out......I've been craving for more literary satiation for the past several weeks anyways.

    Brother, what's that Soozy-Juice that you've been drinking? Because you are in total rare form today.

    But you're made funny, so keep doing your thing. :welldone:

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    This post is going well isn't it?
     
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    Samurai36

    People who by into that "a man show is so-called emotions" stuff,it probably originates from the aspect of other men oppressing(to an extent) and generalizing "their" women,and therefore whenever "they" see a man who displays some of the characteristics "they" would call it "womanish" since they cannot define themselves as men by their own standards,they need a "code of conduct" for all men.It may stem from insecurity.Sadly enough some women "adopt" these notions of how they should act and therefore try to criticize men who do not fit their (women) concept of manhood.

    As far as we are concerned as black men,in my own "opinion", we should not even be concerned with a "universal definition" of manhood because if varies from man to man,culture to culture,and race to race.Though I could be wrong.

    We as people do not in the current "mainstream" world since we do not control it.The problem is as current "universal definition" of manhood,we as men,black/Afrikan men,should not try to measure ourselves by standards we do not create,our women should not as well.Maybe the "dependency" aspect I amd hinting on (it effects ALL people in the current world) deserves its own thread?

    It is an individual/cultural/racial thing as far as the group is concerned in my own "opinion",but it is "universal" as it pertains as to how high the women rise up with the men,but by their own standards and not our "testosterone driven masculinity." Or I could be wrong.:donttell:

    please do.
     
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    lol.......

    Which category would that place you in?:confused:
     
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