Beauty - Hair Care - Fashion : WHAT IS WRONG WITH BRAIDS??? UHHH!

Discussion in 'Beauty - Black Hair Care - Fashion' started by kamnikink, Apr 7, 2010.

  1. kamnikink

    kamnikink Member MEMBER

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    My issue is this. Why is it that when you are a black woman and you choose to wear braids whether with your natural hair or braided extensions ( my hair is natural btw) it seems that it is OTHER BLACK WOMEN who look down upon my style more so than any other race? It's like, when your hair is more European looking with a weave you are better than the girl with the natural braids. I receive so many compliments about my braids from all other races. Even white men ( black men as well) try to talk to me soooo much more when my hair is in my beautiful braids. But, other black women treat it like a " I don't care about my hair right now" type of style when I see it as a statement saying, " I appreciate all the styles that our African hair can create including braids. " Even for my wedding, black women have told me to get a long straight indian hair weave if I want to look presentable while my white friends tell me to get the long braided senegallese twist which they always say are soo beautiful. Why is this? I also notice with our black men, I recieve more compliments about my braided hair then any time I've worn my weaves or straight relaxed hair in the past. Do our men appreciate our natural styles more than we do or am I crazy. And I do not mean micro braids, or braids only braided half way down with weave ends, I mean old school braids - all the way braided down with my hair or the kanekalon hair. Please give some insight.... thanks!
     
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    :fyi:

    I love braids...I loved having my hair in braids...Considering them again so I can grow out this relaxer I have.

    The reason why some black women have this ideology that straight hair is better is because of what society tells them is "good hair". I think it's ridiculous.

    I put my daughters hair is braids and she loves it. It's so much easier to manage too.

    Having to relax my hair every other week is tiresome. And getting up in the morning and having to straighten it is also a pain in the rear.

    I just wanna be able to, get up, take a shower, get dressed and not have to worry about my hair.

    So I'm with you on the braid (as far as a black woman is concerned)

     
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    :toast: Well, I know there are many of us out there who appreciate that we can wear braids in all it's glory. I am just trying to figure out where this state of mind comes from that a straight weave is better than braids because I find myself defending my braids while amongst my black girlfriends and it's frustrating. Its almost like their saying relaxed hair will make me more beautiful? But by whose standards. How to change this mentality is my goal but it seems like more and more men are wearing their natural hair in all the braids, twists, dreds, and so forth and the women are slowly starting to catch on. It just becomes frustrating to defend natural hair. It is alarming that the norm and "way of passage" as a young black woman is a relaxer and that natural hair is something that can make you stand out in a crowd. I can't wait until relaxed hair makes you the odd ball in the room with people looking at you like " why would you fry and terrorize your hair like that? Don't you know black coily hair is beautiful in all it's glory?"
     
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    I have my hair like this currently, to aid my natural transition, which is going well (small-ish kanekalon braids- not micro- plaited all the way down, sealed with hot water at the ends)- and I love how delicate it looks, and how easy it is to 'wear'. Although on the whole, my experience has been that I get approached less with an Afrikan hairstyle (like if I'm out in a club), the men that I DO get approached by are of a whole different 'calibre', on a whole different level...in so much as the way they will respectfully approach you (no grabbing my hand/arm, touching me without permission, hissing, "hey, yo")...I went out last just Saturday, and was referred to as an 'Empress' by one Brother...another Brother asked my friend to introduce him to me, because he felt that I seemed 'Regal', and was intimidated to approach me!! That has never happened before in my life, certainly not when I used to have relaxed hair, or wear weaves... In the beginning, my option to wear my hair in braids DID correlate strongly with a decrease in male attention, which I must admit that I missed...but I now I see that I appear to be attracting a different kind of man, which I much prefer :toast: I get mixed responses from females- some voice their liking for my hair. When I used to wear relaxers or weaves, alot of Black women on the club scene viewed me as some kind of 'competition'- the things they would say and their actions would show me that. Now that I have braids, I see that they are alot more comfortable with me because I am no longer a percieved 'threat' to them (and their lace-front wigs LOL!!) - I get alot less attention from men when I go to these commercialised venues, and those women clearly feel more comfortable with that...so do I :toast:

    Hotep :)
     
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    I long for that day too, Sis...I'm trying to head up the movement in my part of the world- or at least on my street lol!! :toast:
     
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    In response to the original question...

    There's nothing wrong with braids...they're intricately crafted strands of Afrikan beauty...and I lOVE them- If people don't like em Sis, tell them to LOOK AWAY! :whip:

    lol :toast:
     
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    I know it's coming... lol. We are recovering from the past generations brain washing with the new generations paying less attention to who can fit in with the whities and in doing so we are developing a greater appreciation for our own culture, hair, and ways. Light vs. dark is becoming an ancient way of thinking and behaving and the years of brown paper bags and silky hair for acceptance are no longer as much of an issue. It gives me hope that things are finally starting to change. Does anyone else notice that in most of the commericals we see today, they are using models of all shades with natrual hair? I think it's starting to send a subliminal message....:)
     
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    Well...this explains why I call you Queenie, enquiring_mind, its a good thing I'm not intimidated:)...Peace In my sister friend, for real!

     
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    I love braids too.

    Just not the colorful ones or long extensions on babies
     
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    Braids are beautiful , i've seen many many styles and how braidfs are displayed
    or style'd
     
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