Black Relationships : What is romance? .. And if it's important to you, why?

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  1. skuderjaymes

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    In my lifetime, I have had a great many conversations with a great many women.. and in discussions of companionship.. relationships.. etc.. invariably, the word "Romance" floats to the surface.

    For example, a friend of mine complained that the man she was dating was almost perfect but she couldn't be with him because he didn't turn her on... he was a good dude.. blue-collar dude.. family values.. straight walk.. the whole-nine.. but he just wasn't romantic enough for her. And that was evidently a showstopper.

    So let me ask you:

    How do you define Romance? And if romance is important to you, why?
     
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    Anything that comes from the heart out of love and admiration is romance to me....
    I remember my ex cooked dinner for me and we had a picnic on the floor, but that was cause he didn't have furniture lol...but it was the thought that counted..

    I don't need big flowers, fancy dinners and all that....Even just being held is romantic to me.

    There was a time when my ex wrote me letters and sent them in the mail even though he didn't live far....I still have them...it's a reminder that men can be sweet and endearing.

    For me it's the little things...But yeah I think it's important....But romance doesn't mean the same thing for everyone...A person could write a song for someone, then the other person wouldn't think it was romantic, they would probably see it as just being a nice gesture...
     
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    If/when, as a Black woman, I'm threatened or under attack and a brother steps up and shows he has my back. A brother that knows my history as a Black woman in America and does what he can to protect and respect me. :toast:
     
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    peace

    Romance to me, is the mental stimulation caused by a genuine gesture that causes the serotonin to flow.

    Is it important to me? Yes, as i am a Scorpio and romance is our middle name...I love to see the black woman smile.
     
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    Scorpio..."romance" is their middle name? Never heard it put quite like that to describe Scorpios, but it works for me either way...lol
     
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    :SuN026:tryin hard to remember…..
     
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    "a moment", 2010©jamesfrmphilly​
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    Yeah, Queen we don't play when it comes to love & Romance...
     
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