Black Relationships : What is an old fashion relationship?

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  1. Nfant_De_Milieu

    Nfant_De_Milieu Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I hear often from some females that they believe in an old-fashion relationship. Even young females talking about an old-fashion relationship. Although, do all these people really know what happends in an old-fashion realtionship. I know there are some older folks around, please enlighten the younger generation on your views on old-fashion relationships. Not just the notion that a man should pay for dinner, that is always the #1 statement when a female says something about being old-fashion.
     
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    Good question! I would like to know too. I would imagine that it has something to do with the statement to death do us part or to love and cherish forever. Not sure though. Will be checkin back for imfo.
     
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    back in the days of courtship old-fashion relationships
    was how respect was made as where he goes to the
    younglady house meet the parents
    indeed pay for the movies & dinner as always should be
    he bond men then open the door for her when entering
    the car it was about holding hands sharing had time to listen
    when she speak it makes the relatioship last longer into
    a partnership as a whole where he pose the heart
    men then was not out for sexual contact but a bond as many
    sought out the right mate to join in handz in a foreverness
    men then respected the house of her parents never over stay
    the welcome
    it was like the kiss and fairytale thing
    not like today's bruthas who just don't care nor what they may say as many don't know how to treat a lady
    once mad they call them names where as back then it was rare a man whould even think it less to say it it was the moma lesson
    once upon a time men would hold their bonded mate in love by hold heart and honor her beings today many don't care about secret vows of loyality unto her beings
    facts ....when love was compromised it was for keeps
    once married the vows was holy unto thou until death did part
    but today it only last few years and what was true love gone
    like million winds that blow
    men was men then
    today men still boys playing the game , foolin' self
    yet we still have a few good men who know love and how to love
    before a sexual act is posed
    it's about sex and then feelings all wrong !
    back then old-fashion love the heart of emotional feelings
    that made love in compassionate ways with no sex intent
    old-fashion ways was to honor and respect
    men was bread winners of the homes
    men was fathers of thou sons & daughters not daddy's
    old- fashion relationships was soulful fill with joy from the heart
    today it's made up men then took time to love and be loved
    in all aspect of the relationship and when vows to cherish was made it was bond that last and last .....yes cheating been going on many many years ago but men was family orient as today
    many forgot the steps
    so when u hear a female speak on such they have looked into
    the pass of what keeps old folks together it was the old-fashion bonded love as a whole
    not the mines and yours thing
    i can go on and on but to give somewhat light on
    old-fashion relationships that works for many years
    men was their to comfort their mate
    took out time to cook & clean even wash
    this was old-fashion love
    family night outtings being the bread winner of the two
    old-fashion was when he came over with flowers
    buying cute little gifts not on mother's day nor birthday's or sweetest day , valentine day but any day
    in today's flow u can't get men to even come through on day's
    that mean so much to a female
    and when men do they looking for something in return
    we lost way down the history line of what relationship is
    and how it affect lives , emotional feelings and ect.....
    i'll share more later on good old fashion relationships .....$R
     
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    Thanks Rich. The light has been turned on. Very refreshing Information.
     
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    old-fashion relationships
    it the little play with caress it pose a joy to the heart
    old-fashion is how he care and respect
    old-fashion is the late night walks
    even times in the park
    men today don't have time to these thing
    but ladies as well has lost the reality of good old relationships
    always dis and dat fussing talking smack
    see old-fashion relationships wasn't like this
    it was seal with tenderness and how real true love become
    courtship how she with hold his honor
    these was days where not many went out to play knowing
    they wasn't going to stay so cheating was much less then today
    seem like cheating is a part of relationships but NO!
    so i see why females wish for something like this
    watching grandparents even parents stay together so long
    and see no wrong .........yes i would as a man love to have a
    old-fashion relationship it's real , it has meanings ,
    not like today it's base on sexual bond

    will the real men please stand up !

    coz i'm standing str8 up ..
     
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    Awww Richness...what a beautiful description...and you're so right. I remember those days well. There are still gentlemen in the world but it's a rarity to find these days. The sad part too is that I don't expect to be treated like you described anymore. Those are the "little" customs that did make you feel special. It's just nice regardless of whether the people are in a relationship or not. I had to work late a few times this week and there was this man who was on my committee who made sure he opened doors for me, walked me to my car after meetings and waited until I was in my car safely and watched until I started it up and drove away. I remembered thinking..."wow, what a gentleman."

    Great topic Nfant!!! :)
     
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    yes NNQueen those are real men
    sure our ladies today don't even think about this anymore
    where as they know it will never happen but good old -fashion
    love , friendship , partnership , relationship ladies was treated
    like a lady but today men mumble about what can they get for
    doing this and doing that .......we have forgot our true roots
    yes good men like that is rare we can't even get these so call
    men today to even care for their own children so can they treat a lady any better now back in the days Father's was real men
    did little sweet things to make her smile
    played the game to share laughter but now it's all about fussing
    fighting and lying , cheating and sex
    why do sex play such a role ............well for many years men has
    lable our women as sex objects a pleasure hole where they can milk their cow and most women take it laying down face up blind to the facts where old-fashion way was face 2 face hand n hand
    sex was last but least in the relationship
    men then was out to show his worthyness of her hand
    his compromise to reality and how he respect his date or mate
    yes their still a few out here today roaming free
    but where !
    u can still fine one see as time pass by females learned things
    how to eye a myth of a man or see through a foolish man
    yet knows a good man it was how many young ladies did back
    then it's not new just catching roots ....Thank u NNQueen
     
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    yes i did keme and you are ever so right
    this was good old-fashion relationships then
    but now wooooweeeee!
    these ladies can't even be match by the
    old-fashion one's
    as keme stated back then women was more lady like then today
    how they cook and dress
    now today they fast food ya dress very different
    so who don't want an old-fashion relationship in today's world
     
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    I think that's my problem. I would love that old fashion chilvary...not the bare foot and pregnant part.
     
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    I feel ya Royal_T
    nothing like da old fashion love
    back then sex was last on the list
    today that's the first thing jump in da bed
    they need to wake up before something blow up !!
    u feel me ....
     
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