Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by MsInterpret, Sep 19, 2010.
What is a wife's role in the household?
What is a husband's role in the household?
When and if this question is answered by anyone, can the person please share their religious affiliation if you have any?
Just curious. Thank you.
Why do I feel like this is a trap. I'm just sayin'
Both of you know I am opinionated on this issue.
Husbands make the mess
Wives clean it up
Husbands get the clothes dirty
Wives wash them
Husbands get hungry
Wives fill him up
Just kidding...just thought I would give a little fodder for those without a sense of humor.
Really? Said in jest was it? Sounds exactly par for the course.....
As I said - some women are happy to fulfill these roles. Many people think these are proper roles for a man and woman.
Yes, it really was said in jest. BUT, I am a product of my Grandfather's influnence with a LITTLE modernization. AS I mentioned before, I roll like Babyface: "I'm just a little old fashion and I can't help being that way"
My wife asked to stop working, stay home and be a home maker. I agreed to give it a try. That was about 17 years ago (give or take). It was the best decision WE ever made.
I am very traditional in my belief system concerning the role of the man and woman. Unless she wants to (she never does), my wife does not have to mow the grass, take out the trash, wash her car, fix anything that breaks around the house. On the other hand, I don't have to wash my clothes, cook my food, wash the dishes, etc. We are both CAPABLE of doing all of the above but we have jointly decided that the role we would play would be traditional. That works great for us.
On the other hand. I don't believe there is a definative, across the board answer for all marriages...this is something that MUST be communicated and decided upon by the individual couple. What IS important that it is clear to each spouse what their role is and what their spouse's role is so that when something falls through the crack, the appropriate person can either take care of it or acknowledge that it is their responsiblity that did not get done.
The role of the husband is to complement the role of the wife and the role of the wife is to complement the husband so that they become one...
In practical terms the man should be strong and be the head of the household, his word should be the final decider of what goes on, he should be the main wage-earner...
The wife should be the heart of the family, caring for the kids at home when they are still young and looking after her man - she should still be able to have a job before the kids arrive and after they're grown a bit - she should have her own thoughts and be able to express them...
All this only works with the right man - although he is in charge he needs to have his wife and kids welfare as his driving force and not behave in a self-centred manner
Guess I'm a traditionalist really - I want a husband who will love me, care for me, protect me and who I can love and care for back and give him kids and raise them so he's proud of them
Religion wise I'm Roman Catholic Christian
I despise marital roles, especially traditional.
It is.... whatever the hell works out for you and your SO.
That's my answer.
Meh, I say forget traditional marital roles... I believe in life partner(ship). Gender aside, if both has what it takes it takes to make ends meet and both are contributing equally, then that's an ideal marriage (partnership) to me.
To any non-traditionalist female:
If you hear a noise downstairs at night, who goes down to investigate, you or the man?
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