What I love/hate about men, is the tendency to be a lover but not a friend. Making promises they know they will never keep. And how they disrupt your sleep, when they really want to creep. What I love/hate about men, is the tenderness that seeps in. The strength they give when in love and how when you trust them it's all you can think of. The warmth of his embrace, the ectasy on his face. The grin from a dinner well cooked...and the get away surprise that he booked. What I love/hate about men, is the lack of conversation. It's not a sign of weakness to talk about your feelings. But this male indoctrination has my mind and soul just reeling. The uncertainty of his touch, when you yearn for him so much. Is he loving someone else...Does he even love himself? What I love/hate about men, is the courage that they show. When you say you can't take it any mo...you want them out the door. And he finds the strenth to say the words you waited for every day! I LOVE YOU! Does he mean it when he speaks, or is it just to make me weak? What I love/hate about men, is how they confuse good sex with good love...the climax representative of the racing of your heart and the anxiety when you part...will we have this moment again...can he treat me as good as he treats his friend. Will this madness ever end? What I love/hate about men, is the obscure moments of silence when we do the unthinkable and ask them what's on their mind. And the response is "NOTHING"! Well you know it is a lie. So you sit in silence as time slips by. Until one day you stop asking, cause you stop caring...could you be so daring... and just open your mouth as readily as you open your fly. What I love/hate about men, is when they say they will call... and then...they don't, and won't...Do you call and confront and be labeled as neurotic? It's enough to make a girl psychotic. Loving you makes life brand new, but sometime's it's not enough. We need a dialogue or our love is really futile...what would you do to make me smile! I would walk a country mile! What I love/hate about men, is when the love finally calls... they decide to screen them...not knowing she might really be the one , who is worth you coming undone. It's not always going to be fun, but you should at least face it instead of run. Loving you is not easy, you say you want to please me. I want you to stay present in the moment... What I love/hate about men, is this pattern they can be in. Sex on certain days and the guys on another, I don't want to nag and don't want to be your mother, don't want to smother I need my space too. And when we make love and the loving is so deep...I want to talk and cuddle and you want to go to sleep. What I love/hate about men , is that I can't live without ya! I don't even want to try, what's your alibi, is it cause there are so many of us and so few of you that you juggle women the way that you do? Take time and discover you had it all in me...if it's freedom that you are seeking you are Free to be free with me. What I love/hate about men, is this constant power struggle. I am an old fashion woman with no problems with submission... but I do not give you permission to lead when you are so clearly lost...what's the cost? Two lost souls instead of one! Is this the project you so anxiously are trying to get done? To break me and remake me and then leave me alone...saying "You are not the woman I fell in love with!" Well you are responsible for the change. What I love/hate about men is the dillema we are in...can I be your lover and your friend.? I want to feel the way I always did that men are such a blessing, only when with my head you are not messing! Loving you is a battle that I sometimes think is like Vietnam or Iraq, should have never been there and now I can't get back. But when I say I love/hate men, don't be mistaken my friend. I love you, I love you yes I do...I just sometimes hate your ways. Especially on those days when I am the least important in your world...but you claim I am your woman/your girl! Especially when I have made you the priority after God in my world! BJS(C)2004 * This is not a male bashing piece, it is a cry for open dialogue. Feel free to add your flow as I really need to know... Lovingly yours to my Black Kings!