What I have learned from past experiences that, I have to be real and say how I feel right or wrong, I feel better and the other person knows where I am coming from. We must treat one another the way we want to be treated. respect goes both ways, If we keep giving and giving of ourselves and get nothing back we will burn ourselves out. Why put all that pressure on ourselves. I think that mutual respect is on order in any relationship otherwise you are just spinning your wheels and nobody wins, support one another's dreams, hopes and visions,and goals. Its a give and take thing. and if not sooner or later the giver will burn out!