I remember a post somewhere in which Sister Destee said that there were more black men here than one can find in a small church. Since she said that, I have been paying attention to the numbers myself only to see that she was right. The question that ran through my mind was, why? Why are there more men here than women? When we look at the topics that are addressed we can also see a difference. What is this telling us as a people? At one time as I was cruising the internet, I incorrectly thought that; "well maybe the sisters are on these different sites looking for conscious brothers as possible mates". I was wrong about that also. I've now reached a point in thought where I realize that the only way for me to get an answer that is correct without hidden agendas is if there was a site out here "FOR WOMEN ONLY" that would allow me to be privy to the unsuppressed emotions and thoughts that women may be expressing with other women as opposed to other men. Only then do I think that I would be able to correctly gauge the level of conditioning that our women may or may not have gone through. Because our women are indeed the first teachers of our babies, the one thing that is for certain is this; if she doesn't grow and change, nothing about us will grow or change simply because "the nation can never rise any higher than the woman". So while everyone may have their own game or agenda that they choose to follow, this needs to be remembered in the course of our living and reaching out to others. Maybe the bigger question is; what does this say about our women on this site or any other site?