Black Relationships : What do you do?

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  1. SayWord

    SayWord Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    What would you do if you fell in love with someone. Yall were compatible in almost everyway. What happens if they sit you down one day to tell you that they have herpes? How do you handle something like that? Would you stay with this person or would you leave?
     
  2. Nia Maishani

    Nia Maishani Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hopefully, they would not tell me face-to-face, if we've already been intimate. If it were not my spouse, I would have used condoms AND spermicide AND diaphragm ANYWAY, but it is the principle of someone not disclosing this info. until after the fact that would produce volatility. I'd leave with no further conversation, and head straight to the doctor's office.
     
  3. SayWord

    SayWord Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I should have said that they told you before you got intimate.
     
  4. Nia Maishani

    Nia Maishani Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    For the record, there is an extremely large # of folk out there with Herpes, so this a very plausible and probably common scenario. If they had disclosed such information prior to intimacy, I would be very appreciatave of having been told. I suppose if I were really in love, I might be willing to deal with it, but simply take precautions in the bedroom. At least it is not HIV. Still a virus, which is incurable (and nasty), but not fatal.
     
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    wow, that's deep. I might kill 'em. Naw, I don't know what I'd do really. I guess I'd have to be put in that situation to understand the magnitude of it.
     
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    love before hate
    personality before you discriminate
    you must be kind to live
    but herpes--you should never give
    but don't give up hope
    if you know you can cope
    with the fact that love overrules any gain
    and that no matter how much the pain
    that the person you look at has told you a lie
    but remember thats if you love them enough that it shouldn't matter why
    they didn't tell you-but make it straight
    or risk a lifetime to find another love-it's your decision to make.....(reply to my flow ya'll)
     
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    leave....
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    i would have to say leave
    quick fast and in a hurry
    just my thoughts
    some time the feelings can be much deeper and if they was
    true lovers mates and family bond then stay and work out
    the next step to take but if one was lied to and was having sex
    without telling the true story and had to find this out later into
    the relationship then leave