Black Relationships : What do you choose...Conditional or Unconditional Love

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What do you choose...conditional or unconditional love?

  1. Conditional Love in a relationship

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  2. Unconditional Love in a relationship

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    58.3%
  1. LovNThySoul

    LovNThySoul Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Think long and hard on this. I asked another forum the same.


    What do you choose....if you ask/expect certain things...understand, you choose conditional.

    Let me add more here.

    This in the topic of relationships and loving one another or each other. The main topic is between a man and woman. Family and friends can be included but not the subject of the poll.
     
  2. LovNThySoul

    LovNThySoul Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    What do you choose? If so, why do you choose it?

    Thanks all who respond.
     
  3. Sanaiah25

    Sanaiah25 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I would choose unconditional love, because that is the type of love I provide to those I care about and I expect the same in return. :heart:
     
  4. Riada

    Riada Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I would love to have unconditional love when I'm old, Lol, but for now, it's not what I expect or want.

    I don't give it either because I expect certain things from my man and my man expects certain things from me. So this is fine with me. I enjoy the challenge of satisfying him so it would be boring if I didn't have to do anything and still get his love.
     
  5. Sanaiah25

    Sanaiah25 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I guess we all have some expectations, right? Or atleast some basic standards of decency...however I would like to think that even in the midst of personality flaws (we all have them) and mistakes (we all hurt those we love sometimes), that I can still share love with my mate, and he can still share his love with me...
     
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    I think this question should be rephrased. Everyone in wants to be loved no matter what. The question is can you love no matter what or must their be stipulations with the love you give?


    Peace....
     
  7. Riada

    Riada Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Well, no I'm not going to love a man if he doesn't treat me well. My love for him and being with him depends on his having certain bottom-line traits like being loving, reliable, intelligent, kind, sensitive to my feelings, able to apologize when wrong, generous, good morals, well-employed, spiritually-grounded, have similar values, broad-minded, fair, sense of humor, loves knowledge, and a few others.

    I'm a long-term relationship type of woman. If I started loving a man who didn't have these traits, I would quickly end it because he wouldn't be good for me in a long-term relationship. Love alone is not enough to make a relationship work.
     
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    Uncoditional thats deep
    I dont know if I have ever really had that before
    Conditional love would be more suitable for me
    When you say you love someone unconditionally
    You are giving your all/Your soul/Thats alot to commit to
    Dam thats a real lot/Conditional love is okay with me
     
  9. LovNThySoul

    LovNThySoul Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I made my question very general just to see the answers I would get. It shows the thinking of the individual.

    We can love someone unconditionally but that does not mean you have to stay in a negative situation as long as you are living up to that unconditional love.

    I don't think most know what real love is.

    I think it's a shame we can love a dog more than another human being which brings to the point....THERE WOULD BE NO CONDITIONAL LOVE IF NOT FOR SELFISHNESS OR THE PAIN FROM SOMEONE TAKING UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR GRANTED.

    What do you all think of this concept?
     
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    There is no such thing as uncoditional love. We all have a set of criteria, preferences, etc in what we want in a relationship. I think those qualify as conditions
     
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