Black People : What Do We Have in Common?

Discussion in 'Black People Open Forum' started by Destee, Dec 31, 2003.

  1. Destee

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    Hello Family,

    Oftentimes our individual differences keep us from focusing on the things we have in common, as a people.

    Can you name some things we have in common?

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    What a great idea, Destee. I've always said we have many more things in common than not. I will list a few that come to mind, for starters:

    1. the need for social interaction and connection with others
    2. the need for validation of thought and even existence
    3. the need for love
    4. the quest for meaning
    5. natural gravitation to making order out of the environment
    6. desire or need to feel wanted and valued
    7. the unique experience of living in the physical body and mind
    8. the need to have cultural commonalities
     
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    Good question!

    Good question, Des and great response gempis! :)

    I'm giving a lot of thought to the question and will reply often as I search for my answers because I don't have them all yet. But initially what comes to mind as I think about what we have in common as a people stems from things that I believe we want as a people: We want the freedom to be.

    More later...

    Peace! :heart: :spinstar:
     
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    We have a lot in common such as...

    1. GOD
    2. Ancestors
    3. History
    4. Heritage
    5. A strong spirit
    5. Racism and white supremacy (known and unknown...direct and indirect)
     
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    that is a question to really be thought about...for sure the first thing that comes to mind, if we are african and or african-american, or african rooted we have:
    l-color
    2-body (even if we all don't have all limbs, etc.)
    3-and being at Destee..a need to be apart of something more than ourselves (whether consciously or not)
    4-the need for water,food
    I will comeback as i think of our commonalities
     
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    Thank you all for responding.

    This topic came up in voice chat recently, and during that discussion, we got caught up in the differences. It's a challenge for us to focus on the things we can unite on, it seems, so i thought i'd find this thread and bring it back to the top.

    Let's keep trying, no matter how difficult it is for us.

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    In keeping with Brother James' thread, I think comparing what we "value" in terms of our families and communities will abate much of what we concentrate on in our differences.

    I think our respective and collective common values overshadow our differences.

    We just need to find a way to focus on those common values instead.
     
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    that is a choice we all make.....

    is the glass half full or is it half empty. even people who i do not like here on this site probably have more in common with me than different.
    we can chose what we want to focus on.
     
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    Our complexion,
    our ancestry

    being tired of being messed with from the man or Willie Lynch supporting Black folks

    More for our children then we have for ourselves

    A propserous and hopefull future for our children
     
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    We all have a commonality which should lead to true freedom collectively. Freedom of the mind , the body and the soul. We have human commonalities, feelings, expressions, we look for support and validation.

    However, I believe that the biggest value that we can contribute to each other is NOT what we share the same but in our differences.

    Please, let em explain and give an example for clarity. ( Not for you but for me, as example help others comprehend what I'm trying to relay )

    I think its great that we share so much in common. However, I also believe that our downfall is that we do not LEARN to also accept and gain from our differences.

    We scream freedom. Freedom to express ourselves, be ourselves, look different, act different, Be heard . Yet when we see those differences it's like an defense mechanism rises. We will put our armor on and attack. Why ?? Because we are taught to do just that.

    Change is inevitable. Nothing ever stays the same. Positive changes for us, ( The masses. ) Will never come over night. It takes hundreds of little steps to see big jumps. How do we get to make those big jumps ?? IMHO, By learning to value our differences. Ad the true value in our differences.

    It's like a big complicated puzzle. One person contributes just so much. If we are all the same , how much can we actually contribute ?? If those that have a piece of the puzzle that is most vital will they be afraid to contribute ??

    Collectively, We have to LEARN to seek, search and value our differences, As it's my humble opinion . That's exactly where the diamond is at.

    To love each other deeply does not mean to love each other that are the same or because you share more in common. But put the energy in loving those that are different from us and their/our differences allows us to gain most from each other.

    They just added to you as you did them. That's why opposites attract. It's about completion. Not commonality. ( Truly that's taught thinking pattern strictly from Europeans that saw no value in people unless they can gain. Then they took, learned, stole and killed and those that lived , most live by there terms.)

    My 2 cents. Thanks and Peace

     
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