Black Relationships : What do men think about in their 30’s?

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  1. Princess

    Princess Active Member MEMBER

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    --What goes on in the minds of men during a healthy relationship or a bad relationship at the ages of 30-40?
    --You're views on having children?
    --Picking your wife/childs mother?
    --When do you know that you are ready for marriage?
    --Work
    --Change of life


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    when i was in my 30's i didn't think.

    i didn't start that thinking stuff until i got older. :slobber:
     
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    how old? 40 or 50 :court:
     
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    AT 32, I'M STARTING TO THINK MORE ABOUT SETTLING DOWN WITH ONE WOMAN, GETTING MARRIED AND HAVING CHILDREN. WHO WOULDA THUNK IT? ALL I THOUGHT ABOUT IN MY 20S' WAS HAVING FUN AND BEING A PLAYA. BY THE WAY PRINCESS, HOW OLD ARE YOU?
     
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    i'm 25 years of age luv
     
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    I started geting deep in thinking about my life and what i wanted in my late 20's
    about 29 in fact is when i was setting my future and what i wanted in life , In my
    early 30's i did get married but i knew when i was 20 i have to become a man and
    take charge .

    1 what goes on in the mind at 30....
    for me my mind of a health relationship was to be there for my love
    working and how to raise my children right is what i was thinking

    2. your view on children ......
    this something i always wanted to have was children about 3 kid

    3. picking wife/child mother
    I never tryed to pick a woman to be i allow life & soulful love make that for me

    I felt i was ready for marriage and i knew once i made 16 my mind was to
    work for thing i wanted i started with the summer jobs
    my life made a change the day my first born ........i knew what i had to do
     
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    i was in my early forties when i tore my knee up and i couldn't play ball any more.
    this caused me to start thinking.
     
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    For me, now that I'm in my 30's I start thinking more conservatively about life. I now see the importance of values, religion, and getting involved in the community, where as I didn't in the past.

    Owning my own business is more and more appealing because I'm tired of working for others.

    Also, I think a lot about marriage and having children to keep my lineage going. I don't want to be too old to play with my kids. But I still got a lot of traveling to do and things to explore and get out of my blood before settling down.

    But being in this society is also depressing at times because I remember how things used to be (which wasn't perfect) compared to how fast the black community in America is degenerating.

    I just hope and pray that the solutions will come before I am too old to participate in them.



    It's funny how time flies because it just seems like a few years agon I was out of high-school.

    I don't feel my age, I honestly feel no different than I did when I was 17.
     
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    I'm thinking more about starting my own business (getting ready as of this post), and saving for retirement. I'm thinking about buying property, and saving for my children's college fund. Lastly I'm thinking about where I want to live in the next 15-20 (more than likely Africa or the Caribbean).
     
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    I'm not 30 yet (close, 28 yrs old), but I also think about relocating outside of America. Also, I think about being financially independant so I'll have more freedom to move when I am ready. I still think about having a meaningful relationship, but it's not a priority right now. I'm more forcused on myself now that I'm single, and I find that I'm getting a lot more accomplished by myself. So once I relocate and I'm financially independant and comfortable, then I'll start thinking about a relationship (not marriage).