Black Relationships : What do men need and want from their Women emotionally?

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  1. jgyknowledge

    jgyknowledge Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I'm starting this thread, because I want some of the men to state what they want from their women. It's been said what women want and need, and I feel like men often times receive the short end of the stick. I'll add my input later, and women please feel free to dialogue or add what you think. I'm not starting this thread to start a gender war, but maybe this will help some women understand what men need emotionally.
     
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    1. No drama

    2. Love

    3. Let me watch the game in peace

    4. Feed me

    5. If I'm taking you out regular, dont ask me about the dad gum relationship

    6. Dont nag or be needy all the time

    7. Sex on demand :rolleyes:

    8. Give me a reason to be inspired to do greatness for you

    9. If I can buy you a house, you can keep it clean

    10. Think more logically

     
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    I don't mean any offense, but are you serious?
     
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    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    FWIW

    those women who i had the deepest and longest relationships with had siblings. they had brothers.
    because of that they knew more about how a man's mind works.
    they had a better understanding of men.
    they were more relaxed and comfortable.
    they liked men.

    for me the biggest thing is understanding. beyond that is treating me as though i am of value to her.
    li'll appreciation now and then.
     
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    Kemetstry going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Yes, I am serious. Why? :happens:
     
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    Bisabee Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Nothing. Just asking because you come through as such a character in your posts until it's hard to tell when you're serious.
     
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    Strange; I immediately knew that he was serious here, because his list is pretty much a more succinct (albeit a bit crude, I'll admit) version of what I want.

    I'll be back to clarify my criteria (since so many people seem to be perplexed by it) shortly.

    PEACE
     
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    This list seems like a typical male answer. I don't think it is necessarily unreasonable...however, i don't want anything in my relationships to come as a result of demand. Instead i have more respect for an interesting suggestion or request. With this approach, there are few things i wouldn't indulge the man i really wanted to be with long term.
     
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    That's the thing though; from a man's perspective, many of us don't want to ask for it.

    The things that you wouldnt mind indulging in, are things that we want you to request from us from the very start.

    We want you to show us that you want those things as much as we do.

    Thus, "Sex on demand" means that you are doing just as much of the "demanding" (for lack of a better word) as we are.

    For example, surprise us one day, with a request to do something that we like, without us having to ask you for it.

    And surprise us often :)

    PEACE
     
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    Bisabee Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I think that if men were to lay out what they want and what they don't want in a list the way Bro. Kemestry did, and explain how flexible or rigid they would be for each item, women would know right away whether it would work with that man or not. Imagine all the time, energy, money, and heartache this process would save.

    Also with the list that I gave this morning of what a woman needs emotionally from a man, a man would know whether he can satisfy a particular woman if that's her list.
     
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