Black Relationships : What can we do to promote marriage?

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  1. Thelma Jackson-Smith

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    What are some tactics to promote marriage among the young people?
     
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    Another approach is Community Building. Realistically, well-to-do Africans can not expect to marry too early because there is no predicting how their lives will turn out. A Community is a rock of stability. With instability marriage is actually irresponsible.

    Take for instance some women I met the other day. Some were law students, others were medical students. Following their education, they'll need internships and residencies, then they'll need to work in unpredictable opportunities (for instance another part of the city.) To live with a man simultaneously and raise a family would be a handful some may not be willing to take--with just any man. And yet, without even a Community, where would they find the worthwhile man?

    As to women not seeking Professional careers, there is a similar problem. The men who are not well-to-do are frequently targeted by a system which makes an unpredictable situation. He's the first fired, and he's the longest imprisoned. If we neither set up services to employ or conduct ourselves, then how can we expect a woman to will marriage?

    Granted, that's writing from her perspective, but it's similar for the man, too. If he's a Professional, he may not know where he'll be tomorrow. And with regard other men, I mean, well, I couldn't say, but he's a target of a system and she's a target of a system and therein is the reason for the divide.

    Though, for what it's worth, we are marrying one another. It's a matter of finding the right person, which is hard in an individualist and superficial situation.
     
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    What is the motivation for promoting marriage among the young people?
     
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    If everyone is going to be alone, there will be no children or grandchildren.

    People that have some form of family will lose out because no one wants to commit.
     
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    I think first, there should be list showcasing the benefits of marriage.

    I say this because, too many people use love as the primary reason for marriage. So when that whooshie feel good feeling has died down (for whatever reason) some turn on marriage because they've lost that loving feeling.

    Marriage is so much more than just love. It is an obligation to be responsible for one another. An agreement to dedicate ones-self to the support and livelihood of the union and family. It is a dual responsibility to build a sufficient (if not more) living-arrangement by making sure the 5 basic needs are being provided.

    While love is a beautiful thang, the basic survival needs are more important. This is why to promote marriage, i think it should start with the benefits of marriage. What is expected and what will be the responsibility of each participating person.

    This way, when the feel good feeling has dwindled down, the core principles are still intact to insure a thriving livelihood. And no one should be confused about what their purposes are in maintaining that.

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    What do you mean 5 Basic needs?
     
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    Food
    shelter
    clothing
    security/safety
    spiritual/emotional
    innovations/self esteem

    Both parties are responsible for making sure these needs are met within there family unit.

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