About the topic...
I use to get angry when I saw
a black man with a white woman
and sometimes I still do, but not for reasons of jealousy or disgust for the white race. I too, have personal issues on dating outside my race. I have to be honest and say, for me...its just too much bad history and knowing my African American history, I wouldn't be able to adapt.
I don't think thats racist, I think thats real. My problem with interracial dating, is some, need to really dig deep and find out the reasons.....why? Cause it ain't always about love, There are some white women/men who are married to a black woman/man, but don't like black people and the black woman/man knows this and just goes along with the program.
There are some black men/women,
who hate themselves so much, they won't look twice at the opposite sex of their race. I have a problem with
black women/men who go into these relationships and lose themselves. either before or after they are in them. Their attitudes are completely assimulated to the point where there is no more love of themselves or love or respect for their own people. I have heard (some)black men say that, "thats why I don't date a black woman...they to mouthy, I got to work to hard, or white women are more understanding" or (some) black women say, they all thugs, they don't want nothing, all they wanna do is
sit up in your house and sponge, they all leave their kids, a white man can get me the things I need."
Then these atitudes have children, place themselves in a bubble....like the outside world don't exist. Theres no racism.....no color barriers....everything is honkey dorey (no pun intended). While in the real world, once, they send their children out
in it. Their called.....zebras, n*****s, and all the other desparaging names that people use to describe them.
Then they come home and the parents say....its their problem, you just continue to be you. Now what that does, is it sets that child on a path of confusion, anger, hating themselves
and a series of identity crisis..that they may never recover from.
I believe, this is a matter..you can't choose going into lightly....if the world were different, it wouldn't matter.
Ultimately, the decision to date interracially will have long range
effects on everyone involved. If this is completely understood,
and you are comfortable in your own skin.....and your children(especially the black parent because, it is his black heritage that will be attacked most often) are taught the necessary
tools to combat racism.....and they completely understand their heritage.
Then the children will grow up stable and healthy. I have a brother who is married to a white woman....and I have seen first hand the results of a interracial couple, who took their kids (2sons) moved into a all white community, raised the children there and neither child was exposed to the
their black heritage, only by way of their father's skin and racist remarks.
My brother had totally assimulated himself into that world. Now his 21 year old son, is filled with hate, anger and don't know who he is......and the 15 year old is on his way to the same fate.
Again, the decision is more then just the two people involved, society has a way of putting things into perspective for you, its sad.....but reality...just the same. For some the adjustments may
lead to confusion and shame. If you can get pass those adjustments with true understanding, with out
losing yourself then......
love will conquer all
Epiphany