Black Relationships : WHAT ARE YOU STANDARDS?

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  1. MRS. LADY

    MRS. LADY Banned MEMBER

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    First, I would like to thank Sister Ms.Interpret by this name for the inspiration to ask this question for starting the thread with regard to adjusting standards. So, officially thank you, and I'll go back there in a min. to click it :).

    Question: What exactly are your standards when seeking partnership with a significant other in three categories, spiritual (intangible aspects), physical (what u wanna look at), and other (subjective detail if any).

    and permanent question

    In category one spiritual, if u had a suitor, then fit into all of the categories, but they didn't meet all of you eye candy qualities, and the relationship had more then enough fuel to fire from category one, and promised life time joy what would you do?

    Even if you answer these questions hypothetically and internally even, and the answer to the second part of the permanent question is no, you would let that suitor get by you.

    If the answer is no the conclusion, if you can paint the picture is as follows:

    Your decision making abilities are more in tune with the physical, and what other people think, and fitting in with the masses.

    One can see this if you are actually willing to look at self.

    If the answer is yes the conclusion, if you can paint the picture is as follows:

    Your in tune with things of the spirit, and depending on how balanced and strong the sincerity and intent of this is will yield one of two results,

    first, find all yeses in spiritual and a few no's in physical but go with it

    you'll find a certain level of peace, but will remain partially empty and question ur choices from time to time...

    second, find all yeses in spiritual one, and all yeses in two

    that's peace because you have fallen in love with the standard, yourself, so for you it exists.

    peace
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    I'll say i do hold a high standard when seeking a mate
    or should i say i have set rules a guide line i follow and seek within da mate of my choice
     
  3. Bootzey

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    1- must have a job to completely support at least himself
    2- must have own car
    3- must not be married
    4- has to have been raised by 2 parents
    5- must have own place
    6- should not only have a life plan but already working on it
    7- no kids
     
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    wow sis such high one's

    number 4 is what i question.....There are many very great men who has been raised
    by single parent !
     
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    tay_tay225 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I don't have any rules or anything when it comes to love, because if there's one thing I've discovered, it's that love is unpredictable.

    Sure, having a job and a car and certain views and all that is important, but is that going to affect how you really feel about someone? I don't believe in God and I'm bisexual - my ex didn't agree with either things, but he still liked me because of my personality. In the end, I believe that being able to click with someone mentally is all that really counts.

    Now, if we're talking about what it is that I find attractive, that's a different story altogether.
     
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    good point made , I agree that love is unpredictable but i also think there is a degree
    of somekind of standard when entering in a relationship.
     
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    tay_tay225 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Well it could be..I guess I'm just basing it off of my own experience, and I never really expect anything.

    If they do something I don't like, I tell them how I think they can do it better and that's pretty much it. XD Maybe I'm not as picky as I should be, because I have had to break up with people when they wanted something I didn't. (not THE thing, but yeah.)
     
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    good point , i feel ya on that .
     
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    drama free

    My STANDARDS are simple.No emotional drama or daddy issues and she must be a "THICK" Black woman with a Fat booty.My current girlfriend has those qualities so I'm fine right now.
     
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    (In no particular order MY standards)

    1. Muscles - Works out
    2. Easy going
    3. Has at the MOST 1 baby's mother
    4. Has respect for every, including himself
    5. Has a good job
    6. Has a car
    7. Speaks well
    8. Smells good
    9. Funny and fun
    10. Honest
    11. Spiritual
    12. Sane
    13. Clean
    14. Loyal
    15. Good communicator
    16. Goal-oriented (realistic)
    17. Kid-friendly
    18. No more than 2 kids at the most
    19. Good in the bedroom
    20. Romantic
    21. Open-minded
    22. Isn't shy
    23. Isn't a push over
    24. Not in debt
    25. Never gone to prison
    26. Taller than 5'9
    27. Can cook
    28. No younger than me and no older than 40
    29. Drug-free
    30. Not a smoker
    31. Balances me out
     
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