Black Relationships : What are the signs of a Crazy Lover?

[panafrica]

You are right. Now this man I am married to thinks as long as he doesn't put his hands on me it's not abuse. His efforts to abuse me psychologically have not been very sucessful because to me thay are so transparent. I used to joke about there being two ofhim but he got really agitated and ordered me not to do that. I thought wow I've struck a nerve. There are two of him and everytime my foot is ready to hit the door the nice one comes out. When I unpack my bags and settle back down the mean one comes out. I'm not going to keep going through this. I will have to keep walking even when he's wearing the white hat cause really it's just a hat.

River:

Psychological abuse often turns to physical abuse. Neither one is something you want to subject yourself to. Violent and sudden mood swings are a tell tale sign of mental instability. Just the brief description you have provided above is the sign of a dangerous person. You are in greater danger to his abusive treatment, because you are no longer in your home town (isolation is the greatest friend of an abusive man). I strongly encourage you not to remain in this relationship!

 

[river]

I think you are right. I know you are right. it is three degrees below zero outside and we have no heat. My husband has not talked to the landlord (his brother) because he doesn't want to bug him. smh. The way he talks the man must think he is doing us a favor by renting to us. I admit the rent is low but he thinks his own brother will throw him out in the middle of winter rather than light the furnace. I'm still getting over a cold that I had last week. I finally called the landlord tonight myself and talked to his wife who didn't even know that we don't have hear. But the landlord knew and has known since we moved here.

We are taking a train to visit my mom and them in California for Christmas. God only knows how things will go. We're sitting in the living room and he's telling me to put my gloves on if I'm cold. smh

 

[panafrica]

We are taking a train to visit my mom and them in California for Christmas. God only knows how things will go. We're sitting in the living room and he's telling me to put my gloves on if I'm cold.

Don't hesitate to stay if you have to!

 

[Queenie]

Please define "crazy" because what might be crazy to you may not be crazy to me.

Thanks,
Queenie

 

[panafrica]

Please define "crazy" because what might be crazy to you may not be crazy to me.

I don’t think we could come up with a definition of what is crazy, because this is largely personal. There are some women who think that “domestic violence” is normal behavior. Indeed some women are upset if a man doesn’t hit them (I’ve personally met women like this). Other women would be ready to kick a man out the house, who raised his voice at them. Some guys like women that are moody and argumentative (makes things exciting). Others feel women like this are psycho! Different strokes for different folks.