Black Men : What are our responsibilities as men?

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  1. ru2religious

    ru2religious Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I think one of the biggest issues that we face within in our relating to sistas is that neither side has established our parts in a relationship. We argue, debate, and ultimate some get mad because of the blame game which shouldn't be a part of our relating to each other.

    The only reason for a blame game is that we have not established what it means to be a man or a woman for that matter. We are quick to point the finger at each other without any real foundation to what and who we are meant to be in each others lives.

    This disorientation to our perspective places in relating to each other was established through slavery and the break of a black man and woman. So now instead of arguing and hold animosity toward each other - can we get some form of establishment as to our roles with each other?

    I will start it off because if you ask a lot of men what is our place many of them will draw a blank and make things up as we go along but let us deal with reality as it is and where we are at in this time and era/error.

    Being a man is being a protector, gladiator, warrior, worker, provider, priest, responsible and more.

    Protector: His job is to protect his family from all that may be a dishonor to his family and his family's name. He's to protect his family from the wolves, theives, murders, rapist, and so forth. He is to protect his families honor by being a stand up man, who doesn't lie, or is a cowardice man shelter himself into a corner when times get hard. He doesn't run out on his family when times seem bleak, he doesn't just stand in the storm but he moves through the storm protecting his family from all moving objects (i.e. hardships).

    Gladiator: Someone invades his home or threaten his wife and kids, he will lay his life down for them instead of sitting back crying while his family is being physically and mentally destroyed. A gladiator knows that his family depends upon him to provide protection at all cost so that his legacy may live on through his kids. He is by all means the first to great any invader at the door and he will do what it takes to make sure that his family will not be met with violence from any invader. His wife will see him as the gladiator that stands to assure the safety of her well being and the children.

    Warrior: This is so important - a warrior will fight for his nation to insure the freedom of his kids and wife. When his nation calls him to war he will go and fight to assure their freedom. As AA's we don't have a nation that we can call our own but when the day comes that our en slavers turn against us once more we have to be warrior and ready to make sure that our kids don't have to suffer what our forefathers and mothers suffered. Some call this black power, I call it mandatory survival. Many of our black men are not warriors and will be fine to see our people back in chains. A true warrior will fight to make sure that this never become the case again.

    Worker & Provider: He will get up when he doesn't want to - he will work when he feels that he can't work any more but he will do it because he knows that it has to be done. He knows the importance of feeding, clothing, and sheltering his family and nothing, no one or circumstance will stop him from provide for his family. If he can't get a job then he will create a job that will provide for his family. He will build mud sculptures and try to sell them in order to provide for his family - but he also knows that if he does it the illegal way then he will be caged which leaves his family to the wolves where he can't protect, provide for them. A worker is smart and will do things legally in order to keep a roof and food for his wife and kids.

    Priest: He will be the teacher of his family, he and his priestess will be on one accord and they will lead their kids in the right direction. He will not be persuaded by man's thoughts but will be lead by the Most High in the direction that the Most High is leading their family. He will understand and know that he's the ruler of his house and for another man to come into his house giving spiritual direction is but another man trying to be the man above the man, the husband above the husband with all rights to the wife and kids. A priest will prevent this at all cost because he knows who and what he is and how to lead through wisdom.

    Responsible: He is all of the above and more.
     
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    leadership, protection, providing…..
     
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    There is so much to defining what our responsibilities are that its going to take a while to go through them.
     
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    This right here says it all as far as I am concerned.
     
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    << Priest: He will be the teacher of his family, he and his priestess will be on one accord and they will lead their kids in the right direction. He will not be persuaded by man's thoughts but will be lead by the Most High in the direction that the Most High is leading their family. He will understand and know that he's the ruler of his house and for another man to come into his house giving spiritual direction is but another man trying to be the man above the man, the husband above the husband with all rights to the wife and kids. A priest will prevent this at all cost because he knows who and what he is and how to lead through wisdom. >> ru2religious

    This is especially important.

    You are a really good writer.
     
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    P{lease due understand that we had all of that 500 years ago, and most of that up until the late 70s or late 80s. IMHO the NSA created hip hop to distort the warrior aspect so that by the time gangsta rap came about, the Warrior aspect acted like the PTSD gulf war veterean, turning on his community, his family and hiself
     
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    Those things are cultural paradigms, those groups who have kept those cultural paradigms or created new ones, instilled in all of the young men in the community as being their IN THING , those communiities will succeed in the future

    those who do not, only the few who adhere to this will, while the rest.................................

    If Tavistock can make dumb crap like sagging go viral among millions of Black youth, how can we collectively make, all of the all of those 6 key principles go viral among our youth instead?
     
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    What I find interesting about this thread is that only a hand full of brothas actually commented on it yet when it comes to women issues the men are all up in those camps. Are we actually bias like that where we do not attack our issues and get on the women?

    We need some serious help - and the way we are going to get that is through the interchanging of ideas - which will provide us with an insight into our don't and does. In a different thread a man created 22 kids by 14 different women and we broke down the facts about women being the controllers of their bodies - but now its time to prevent brothas who run around protection free from happening. This brotha could have ended every last one of these women lives by his neglect in being a responsible man and using protection. Do we not have anything to say about that?

    We have a bunch of silent killers roaming the street mentally working sistas, feeding them illusions and our daughters could possible be next yet we have nothing for them? What's up brothas, why is this discussion falling off of the main-page? This should be the top of our discussions if any.
     
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    I can imagine if this was realized/recognized by 4 billion men family to family. What a force that would be.
     
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    I'm with you on this. Responsibility goes both ways. I cannot comment on who replies to what in what given time, but I for sure will tell you that work is needed on both fronts. The thing is how do we get all, if not most, to not just accept the "go with the flow" attitude as in, "It's all I know so it is what it is.", without losing people in the delivery? There are facts out there and there are plenty messages, but what is the dynamic that will allow most to adhere to experience and knowledge that is trying to benefit them? Seriously, if anyone can figure that out then we could be in ignition stage of things.
     
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