I think one of the biggest issues that we face within in our relating to sistas is that neither side has established our parts in a relationship. We argue, debate, and ultimate some get mad because of the blame game which shouldn't be a part of our relating to each other. The only reason for a blame game is that we have not established what it means to be a man or a woman for that matter. We are quick to point the finger at each other without any real foundation to what and who we are meant to be in each others lives. This disorientation to our perspective places in relating to each other was established through slavery and the break of a black man and woman. So now instead of arguing and hold animosity toward each other - can we get some form of establishment as to our roles with each other? I will start it off because if you ask a lot of men what is our place many of them will draw a blank and make things up as we go along but let us deal with reality as it is and where we are at in this time and era/error. Being a man is being a protector, gladiator, warrior, worker, provider, priest, responsible and more. Protector: His job is to protect his family from all that may be a dishonor to his family and his family's name. He's to protect his family from the wolves, theives, murders, rapist, and so forth. He is to protect his families honor by being a stand up man, who doesn't lie, or is a cowardice man shelter himself into a corner when times get hard. He doesn't run out on his family when times seem bleak, he doesn't just stand in the storm but he moves through the storm protecting his family from all moving objects (i.e. hardships). Gladiator: Someone invades his home or threaten his wife and kids, he will lay his life down for them instead of sitting back crying while his family is being physically and mentally destroyed. A gladiator knows that his family depends upon him to provide protection at all cost so that his legacy may live on through his kids. He is by all means the first to great any invader at the door and he will do what it takes to make sure that his family will not be met with violence from any invader. His wife will see him as the gladiator that stands to assure the safety of her well being and the children. Warrior: This is so important - a warrior will fight for his nation to insure the freedom of his kids and wife. When his nation calls him to war he will go and fight to assure their freedom. As AA's we don't have a nation that we can call our own but when the day comes that our en slavers turn against us once more we have to be warrior and ready to make sure that our kids don't have to suffer what our forefathers and mothers suffered. Some call this black power, I call it mandatory survival. Many of our black men are not warriors and will be fine to see our people back in chains. A true warrior will fight to make sure that this never become the case again. Worker & Provider: He will get up when he doesn't want to - he will work when he feels that he can't work any more but he will do it because he knows that it has to be done. He knows the importance of feeding, clothing, and sheltering his family and nothing, no one or circumstance will stop him from provide for his family. If he can't get a job then he will create a job that will provide for his family. He will build mud sculptures and try to sell them in order to provide for his family - but he also knows that if he does it the illegal way then he will be caged which leaves his family to the wolves where he can't protect, provide for them. A worker is smart and will do things legally in order to keep a roof and food for his wife and kids. Priest: He will be the teacher of his family, he and his priestess will be on one accord and they will lead their kids in the right direction. He will not be persuaded by man's thoughts but will be lead by the Most High in the direction that the Most High is leading their family. He will understand and know that he's the ruler of his house and for another man to come into his house giving spiritual direction is but another man trying to be the man above the man, the husband above the husband with all rights to the wife and kids. A priest will prevent this at all cost because he knows who and what he is and how to lead through wisdom. Responsible: He is all of the above and more.