Black Relationships : Were You Ever In Love? - Did You Dog Your Ex Out - Afterwards? Why?

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  1. rapunzal24

    rapunzal24 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I was just on Facebook, and an old friend of mine went H.A.M. on a women he was dating. Long story short, drama happened and he put all of her business on front street. He talked about what they did during sex, and her relationship with her child, he even put up the mugshot of when she got arrested. He put all of this up on her page, I am sure if she wasn't locked up at the time she would have deleted it. In turn she posted the same type of mess about him. Eventually, she blocked him, after she got out she just wrote comments to him, then after all that, she blocked him. What I would like to know is if you love someone, would you be able to tarnish their names afterwards? They were together for over a year. It just seems so strange to me to share an intimate part of your lives, and say all of these nasty mean things about them afterwards. How do you handle a breakup? Have you ever had a moment where you just dogged your ex out? If so, why?
     
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    I just think it's childish, No i've never felt the need to drag a person in the mud
    and secondly no matter a woman shouldn't be disrespected in such way, walking away
    works better then blastin , it's like holding on to a bad dream or nightmare........

    shame on them both !
     
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    Sometimes that thin line is razor thin. When it starts cutting, ..........


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    sometime it is a thin line between love and hate, which is still somewhat acts of bitterness/revenge/hurt & pain
    but if one can walk away soon the healing begin, to blast/cuse/disrespect only keep war beyond peace
    the mind can't relax when the heart is hurting this makes folks do things out the act of love ....I always said
    love is misused because the effects it has on a person life , key is letting a bad emotional feeling die with the
    relationship/marriage or sometime friendship, we use this tool as a weapon from hurt n' pain to make that one
    feel the same, but it also lingers a mightmare one that should end along with the relationship.

    what the hack......I don't know nothing somebody ask Dr. Phil .......lol

    let go upon departing open doors to another beginning, anew / carry it with you only tarnish the next chapter
    in a relationship , most often end bitterly....
     
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    When i hear / see someone dogg'n out their ex ... it says a whole lot more about them ... than their ex ... to me.

    If they'll talk about that person that they loved so much at one time, they'll talk about you too.

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    There's this distinction between manhood and malehood...between womanhood and femalehood....and until we learn it and make it a part of ourselves, we will always run into post like this that speaks to males and females since a man or a woman would never engage in ish like this!!
     
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    .o0( Sometimes the ex's deserve it. Put the word out to save others )


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    Sometimes it seems a little vindictive, and more out of anger than saving others.
     
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    those women that i have been blessed to be with in my time have been angels. (they put up with me, didn't they?)
     
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    I did say sometimes


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