Higher Standard Required : We Are Not an Adult Babysitting Service - But Will Accommodate You If Necessary

Discussion in 'Our Rules - Higher Standard Required' started by Destee, Mar 1, 2010.

  1. Destee

    Destee destee.com STAFF

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    Peace and Blessings Family,

    We are of the opinion that grown men and women should be totally responsible for their own interactions with other grown men and women, as well as the consequences of those interactions. We do not see a reason why we should be called in to help other adult men and women facilitate positive end results with other adults. After all, we're adults too, just like yall. We have no more ability than you, and it makes absolutely no sense for us to be called in to work out the interactions you chose to be a part of, that failed. We feel that is your responsibility alone, you and those involved.

    When you make the decision to interact with others, you have a responsibility to deal with whatever comes as a result of your choice to interact. You made the decision to interact, not us. We are not responsible for that decision, or its consequence, and we are not interested in coming in on the tail end of them, trying to fix it for you.

    If you are not getting what you want from that interaction (that choice you made), it's up to you to make it be what you want it to be, fix it, leave it alone, whatever ... not us. At the point you realize the interaction isn't going in a manner that is conducive to your well being, or the well being of this community, you have several options (as an adult).

    1. You can continue in it with that person(s), with the possible consequence of being banned with them.

    2. You can ignore that person, allowing them to continue alone in the disruptive behavior, and be banned alone when we see it.

    3. You can file a complaint and hope that your choice to interact with the person, and subsequent failure to do it in a positive manner, is no reflection on you.

    4. You can stop interacting with other people altogether.

    I suppose you may have more options, but that is all that comes to mind right now.

    My point and hope is, that you all realize we are not babysitters of your choices, interactions, and end results.

    This community is no different than any of the other interactions you have with people. You choose where you go, who you talk to, who you spend your time with, how you respond to them, how you let them affect you, etc. If you were in a crowded room, at the grocery store, at work, the library, etc., and someone said or did something you did not like, it would be totally up to you to deal with that situation in an adult, responsible manner. You would probably not talk to that person again, i don't know, but whatever you decide in that situation ... i know you'd not be calling on me and my Moderators to help you facilitate the situation ... so please, be slow to call on us now. Instead, demonstrate your adult ability to facilitate positive end results with others, even in the most trying of situations.

    I want you all to do here, whatever you would do in any life situation, that wasn't going the way you wanted ... and deal with the consequences.

    Yes, we are here, but not to babysit adult men and women, and we will not be looking kindly at requests for us to do such.

    If we are called in, to help you facilitate an interaction that you chose to be a part of, that failed ... as an adult grown man or woman ... then you will get whatever we give. We will not show any patience for these kinds of situations, for we, just like you ... must facilitate our own personal interactions with others ... trying to make the best decisions that manifest the most positive results ... and we simply cannot do it for each of you ... so we will do it for none.

    As far as we're concerned, the fact that you must complain about an interaction you chose to take part in, and failed to successfully manifest a positive end ... means you failed too ... not just the person who may have violated the rules.

    You will be held accountable for that failure, in this community.

    This is all so new, and i'm not sure how the implementation of it is going to go over, but i'm determined to see.

    If you have any questions, please ask.

    Much Love and Peace.

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    Destee
     
  2. Destee

    Destee destee.com STAFF

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    We will not babysit your behavior, choices, and actions.

    If you can't consistently demonstrate an ability to interact respectfully, you will not be allowed to participate here.

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  3. Keita Kenyatta

    Keita Kenyatta going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Come on Destee...join our back in the 50s post....I ain't gonna tell nobody ! :rolleyes:
     
  4. Destee

    Destee destee.com STAFF

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    lol ... i'll only be able to share what i read and heard ... QQ ... :) ... but okay ... thanks for the invitation ... :love:

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  5. Destee

    Destee destee.com STAFF

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    if i gotta babysit adult interactions ... you'll problee be abused

    i'm jes say'n

    i ain't hardly babysit my own chiren

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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    U know the sayin !
    some babies are satistic and some known for can't get right
    come next year i won't be spanking & babysitting i'll be more like a one punch deal
    we too ole fo tis kinda behavior and my bones now getting tired sore and brittle
     
  7. Destee

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    Peace and Blessings Family,

    In the past i've said that i will not babysit you, but with so many in need of such service, and the technology available to make it easy for me to do ... i will accommodate you.

    I liken our babysitting services for adults who can't or won't engage respectfully to abuse and mistreatment.

    I will not be as fair as you think i should be. I will not perform a CSI level inquiry. I will spend as little time as possible ending the disruption. I don't care who started it, why it continues, or about any of the particulars. I will simply stop it ... putting all we deem responsible / involved in "time out" ... moderating your posts at my leisure, should you choose to continue submitting them.

    Moderating Your Posts = reviewing and approving or denying each of your posts prior to its publication, at my leisure ... which means you may post one minute, and it actually get added to the site for others to see hours, days or weeks later, if at all.

    If you don't like a Member or what they say, and can't contain yourself within the rules, put them on ignore.

    You will fare much better moderating yourself, than having me do it.

    If you have any questions, just ask.

    Much Love and Peace.

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    Destee
     
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    Kemetstry going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    *Wondering if babysitting includes an allowance*






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    SophiaG Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I love the ignore function. Thank you for adding it to the forum. It'll make things easier for me and probably for other members and there will be less problems for you to deal with hopefully.
     
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